Planning A Wedding For A Mature Couple(47+)

There are so many things that you can do for a wedding but since this is an older couple, instead of favors, maybe you can give a donation to a charity in the name of the wedding. If you really want to give a favor, I would visit dollar stores and buy bulk champagne glasses, make charms to put on them and either buy rub on transfers or make them on the computer so that you can rub on the design on the glass. That will cost you no more than $1 to $1.50 per favor. There are many vendors on here like Connie`s Personalized Keepsakes who is having a 20% off sale on her items. You can find a lot of vendors on here who have things that are different and inexpensive.

I like the donation idea.

We are also using the charity idea instead of favors and went with The Make A Wish Foundation . It is called Wedding Bell Wishes and when you make a donation they print up cards that say a donation has been make in honor of your guests.

I`m not sure I`d call 47 "older". Personally, I think a second wedding deserves all the hoopla that goes with a first marriage. If you want to downplay things, that`s what you should do. But it you want all the trappings, go for it. I really think your guests are looking forward to favors and flowers and a great cake and dancing. I`ve been to a couple of weddings in which the couples were in the mid to late 50`s and they had all the wedding traditions, one bride even wore a tradtional wedding dress. I guess I`m saying that age is irrelevant, just have the wedding you really want.

Goodygirl, your friends are very shallow if they are thinking that they come to a wedding to get something, are you one of those brides who are asking for money on this board? If someone goes to a wedding just because they want to receive a favor, then they are presumptious. You should never go anywhere and assume you are getting something. Just as a bride should not assume that just because she is having a wedding that she gets a gift. I think that the donation idea is great and my cousin did it in the name of her son who has cancer. When they got married, she made a donation in the wedding party`s name to the cancer society and everyone thought that was a great "favor". I don`t know how many people keep those favors, I hate bubbles no matter how pretty you make them, I don`t know how many more champagne glasses I can get with the bride and groom names on them, I started allowing people to drink out of them on New Years and I am tired of the personalized matches.

My dear Hunter, obviously you`ve never been to classy, elegant wedding. Plastic champagne glasses???? Personally, I`ve never been to a wedding that tacky. And you really should get some remedial reading classes, because obviously you have trouble in that area.

Goodygirl, many elegant and formal weddings do not include a tacky favor. I too, am tired of those favors. I have received many unique favors but are they really necessary? No, they are not. It is just a little way of remembering the bride and groom on their day but how well do you remember when most of them are left on the table, some are thrown away and the champagne glasses that she is talking about are not plastic, she stated personalized champagne glasses. I know them well, so many brides and grooms are using them now. If you went past remedial reading, you would have understood what she was writing. I have been to weddings that were worth over $100k and they gave out favors that people wanted only because it was so many different things in the bag but since you are going for a more inexpensive favor, I think that the donation in the wedding party`s name is a great idea. People will remember that most.

Goodygirl, if it is plastic, then it cannot be a champagne GLASS!!! Get educated before you tell someone else to.

Dianne, you can`t talk to goodygirl as she is a materialistic person, who would tell someone that they should not donate to a charity that they should spend money to make sure that their guests have a favor? What mindset would a person have to say something like that?!?!? By the way, I am tired of the personalized champagne glasses too. I have slippers filled with candy, kisses on a spoon, flower pens in pots, bubbles ornaments, ice cream scoop, personalized candy jars, personalized frames, matches, cell phone holders with their names on them, coozies, bears, bud vases and so many more things. Yes they are cute but I am really tired of them all. If someone were to tell me that they donated something to a charity, I would love that too. No one needs a favor, it is nice if the bride has one but you do not have to give them something. You give them a thank you card for coming and that is a must. I do like that you stated to her that a champagne glass is not plastic, a plastic flute is but if someone writes champagne glass, they are actually talking about a glass!! Idiot goodygirl. Needs to go back to 1st grade to learn the difference.

How can such silly little girls even be contemplating marriage? Donating money to charity in lieu of favors is the silliest idea I ever heard of. If you don`t want favors, don`t have them. But your guests will certainly miss them. The favors are a little thank you gift to the guests. But, why don`t you go hog wild and wear jeans and tee and serve pepsi and oreo cookies and donate ALL the money you save to "charity"?

You can get silk flowers and make your wedding flowers really cheap. You can use inexpensive bubbles that every dollar store has with 10 in a pack, you can also buy champagne glasses there for 2 for $1 and fill them up with Hersheys kisses. You can make your own labels printing the wedding information on your computer in color. You can have a family friend introduce the wedding party for the reception, you do not need a professional master of ceremony. If you need any more help, leave your e-mail address and I can e-mail you about other ideas. I have some items here that you can have from weddings that I have done for family members. I have champagne glass bubbles and other things that you may have. Just let me know.

Fiftyplus, I don`t think your post is correct. Yes a favor is a thank you but so is the thank you card. If a bride out there decides to donate money to her favorite charity, then I think that is a great idea. The meal, drinks, and cake is what the guests get at a wedding. There are so many celebrities who have donated to charities and gave no favors (Star Jones and Al) as well as many football players, singers and the such. I love to receive favors, I keep all of them and I have them in my china closet but if a bride chooses not to hand out a favor and instead donate money to a charity, I am not going to call her tacky for not having one, It is her choice. She did as a host should do, she covered the meal, dessert, entertainment and comfort. There is no rule to have a favor and there is no rule that it has to be something material, it can be a donation. I really don`t think it is good manners to put down anyone for their ideas and I have been finding that a lot on this board. I think that each person has good ideas even if I don`t agree. It is no reason to put someone down. I think all of the ideas offered are nice. As I have said, I love getting the unique favors and I keep them but there are many (personalized candy bars, mints in a shoe or in a plastic holder) that I do not keep as they are just the ordinary. I eat the mints or things like that but it isn`t worth showing off in my cabinet. I love favors but if a bride wants to do a donation, I think that is great also.