Love/Marriage Help

Sweetheart, you are in love with the thought. At your age, you need to focus on your education and if this relationship takes you beyond your highschool years, then try it beyond your college years because you will both need more than highschool educations in order to survive financially on your own, even if it is just a 2 year college education. Most marriages don`t last due to finances. I know that I broke up with my boyfriend when he lied about his finances and I found out that he owed so much in debt that we would never have survived or even have gotten our own place together. We would have been surviving just on me. I would have had to buy the house alone BUT since being married and (prayerfully) being together for years, he could still get half. Now you should never go into a marriage just on that thought but if you cannot survive financially you will have struggles. I tell my nieces every day that you don`t want a man who:
1. Lives at home with his parents at the age of 25
2. Does not have an education beyond highschool even if he has a trade that can help him with a career
3. Has a criminal record
4. Has untreated (if any at all) psychological problems
5. Has to have material things and does not pay his bills
6. Does not take care of his responsibilities
7. (since you are young) has children by more than one mother
I am not saying that I am the gospel but you will have less problems and struggles if you start off right. Don`t allow a man to bring you down. Think about everything that you have right now. What can you do for yourself? What can he do for himself? Most men in jail and in rehabs talk of promising futures and love and it changes when they get out. I see it so much in my community. I try to talk to the teens in my community all of the time. Please think past what your heart is telling your head. Go beyond that and take care of your future before you think that a man is going to do it.

There has to be something that he isn`t telling you......you just don`t get put into a foster home for a whole year for overdosing...especially at 16. Most first offenses only get probation with fines. My bet is that there are some other convictions that he isn`t telling you about. Sounds to me like he isn`t the mr. Wonderful that your mind wants you to think that he is. Especially if he is into drugs...his mind is messed up from them....he will never be the same. You need to stop covering up and being blind to the bad things that he has done. They just don`t disappear when he is out. It will be a constant issue. Even if he is rehabilitated he will always have an issue. I would be very interested to what your parents have to say.....i am sure they are ready to support you at 16 marrying a man that just got out of a place like that. With nothing to his name....you may not like what they have to say but they really know what they are talking about.....you need to listen to them.