MONETARY & GIFT CARDS FOR BRIDAL SHOWERS
My daughter is getting married in 6 months & her future husband is in the Navy & currently stationed in Japan.
She will live with me for about 6 months after the wedding till he gets his orders to some unknown location in the US.
Since my daughter does not yet know where she is going or exactly when we will give her a shower party requesting monetary gifts.
This way we do not have to store gifts & than worry about shipping them. Suppose the items do not work when she goes to use them or if they are not right for their new place. This way they can buy what they need, when they need it. Everyone understands this & basically agrees its less of a hassle.
However instead of just giving an envelope with money or a gift card we are going to suggest a "virtual gift" (the gift you would have bought under different circumstances). You could include a picture of the gift in the card, but better yet you can include a toy version of it in a box that matches the size, or just something representing what you meant to say. You can give an etch a sketch in lieu of a TV. A rubber duck representing bathroom items, plastic utensils representing a flatware set, etc. This way the bride can guess what her "gift" would have been (but you are giving her the money to buy that gift). At the same time we can play bridal bingo.
I do not think it is inappropriate for the mother of the bride to give the shower. My mother gave mine, my mother in law gave my sister in laws. My daughter`s friends are college girls that aren`t established in their lives yet. With all the other expenses, they can chip in for a gift.
Every situation is different. I have never heard in any of these cases of people complaining of the mother giving the shower.
Posted by WANDA BIANCULLI; updated 02/07/05
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Uhhh.... Sure Wanda... Whatever you say..
Now I`ve heard it all.
Posted by Linda; updated 02/10/05
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Wanda,
I think what you are doing is a very cute idea. You are going to have people on this board judge you and critize what you are doing so don`t let that get you down. However I`m sure all of your daughters friends and family know and understand her situation and will not be offended by the theme of the shower.
I also see NOTHING wrong with a mother or any other family member hosting a shower. I only asked my best friend to stand up for me so my mother and future mother-in-law are both helping her to host my shower.
Good luck.
Posted by Janine; updated 02/10/05
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I don`t understand what the big deal is, it`s just a shower... Now a stagette I could see it being a bit weird if the mother hosted that... But the bridal shower? I thought that was a standard these days?
I and my mother co-hosted my sisters...
Yeah, don`t let these trolls get you down. There are other people on here who will give you good and helpful advice.
Posted by Eoandriel; updated 02/10/05
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The fact that you don`t see anything wrong with this scenario doesn`t automatically make it okay. If you don`t understand why it`s not appropriate, then I`m sorry.
Posted by Linda; updated 02/11/05
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It is not approriate for close family members to host the shower because it is seen as self serving. My daughter only had a MOH stand up for her, and she and another friend wanted to host the shower . I couldn`t see them paying for it as the MOH was a first year teacher and the other friend was in her last year of college, So we planned it together and then I payed for most of it. But on the invitation it said hosted by Karilyn and Christy. No one was any wiser.
Posted by BridesMom; updated 02/11/05
