Do Parents Pay?

No, you do not have to pay for a thing. She had 2 other weddings even if she did elope. You pay whatever you want, if you want to pay at all! I would surely tell her since she did not want what was offered, she can take nothing. Throw her off and just offer to pay for your plate. What nerve! It is not the parents obligation to continue to pay for weddings especially when the child is working on her 3rd.

I am 22 years old and am paying for my entire wedding myself (with my husband of course). I still live with my parents and they have OFFERED to help but this is something I want to do on my own (they have a home to pay off and my brother still in college). I think that it is up to the parents to decide if they want to help. I was somewhat offended when my in-laws didn`t offer to help pay for it (they just bought a new home and wouldn`t dream of taking their money for a wedding we can pay for ourselves but an offer would have been nice). Anyway, I don`t think it is EVER the parents` RESPONSIBILITY to pay for anything because if you`re adult enough to get married, you`re adult enough to pay for it yourself. You can`t start your life together depending on others. I personally think its rude of your daughter (ESPECIALLY at her age) to hand you a figure and expect a check in return. You don`t owe her a thing.

We told both our kids(one son and one daughter) that we would pay for their college expenses, and they would be responsible for their own Weddings.We figured we were giving them the means to pay their own way. Well, my daughter got married last year and she and her husband planned on doing it themselves.We did help alot, but only with what we wanted to do. We payed for her gown, tiera...well her whole outfit, the invitations, they were not going to have a videographer (because they thought it was too expensive so we surprised them and hired them, and other things also but the point is, is that we payed for what we wanted to and what we could comfortably afford. The grooms parents, about three months before the wedding gave them a generous cash gift and told them to use it however they needed to. We then about two weeks before the date gave them our gift, so if they needed it they had it. All in all this work well, with everyone contributing. I kept track of what we spent so when my son gets married we will give them the same, but not wanting to be an interferring MIL will do the same thing my daughters inlaws did, just give it to them with no strings attached. Now if this was a second or third marriage forget it......I certainly would wish them well, and give them a gift but I would not be beating myself up. By a gift I mean a normal gift like anyone else would give them....maybe $150.00 or so.
Good Luck.....