Any Suggestions For Telling Family You`re Eng
Hi. Here`s my question. I`m going to be 19 in a couple months and my boyfriend of almost a year is going to be 20. We really want to get engaged on our one year anniversary. Even though we`ve only been going out for a year we know that we want to be together for the rest of our lives. We are not getting married until after college. But we would like to get engaged now and have a long engagement. The thing is we don`t know how our parents will react. Do you have any tips on how to tell your parents you are engaged? And any tips on how to deal with different reactions?
Posted by Happy In Love; updated 02/02/05
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Well, for starters if you and your family are traditionalist your boyfriend should ask your father (or mother) if he can marry you. Even if you`re not super traditional I think this would help. Your parents would probably respect him more.
Before my husband and I were married (I was 19 and he was 21) my husband had "the talk" with my dad. My dad wasn`t rough on him or anything, he just wanted to know his intentions, his plan, how he was going to support us and our future family. After they talked and he made sure it was nothing my parents were going to have a fit over, he proposed and we were married a year later.
PS. At first we planned a long engagement, I wanted to finish school, save money etc... I didn`t want to start our marriage until everything else was perfectly stable. Then my mom said something very thought provoking. She said, "You can struggle by yourself or with eachother. All the lights will never be green." We`ve been married for 7 months now and I haven`t regretted it or wished we would have waited once. Just the opposite, I am so glad we did we could have missed so much!
Posted by maybe?; updated 02/02/05
