Money Tree

They have their dishes and towels for two,
They have pots & pans & oven mitts too.
So what do you get the Bride & Groom
Whose home is set up in every room?
Their house needs repairs & some upgrades too
But you cannot register for carpet & glue.
A tree that grows wishes is the way to go
So let’s make it easy for all that know.
A money tree will be on display at the reception hall, To give your monetary wishes, To the Bride & Groom, with love from all.

Why do people think it is acceptable to ask for money from their guests? Furthermore, why do people think it is acceptable to request ANYTHING from their guests? How rude and presumptous.

Although this is not the norm, I do like the poem but I will ask that you think about this... You know your family and friends. They should know your sister`s household is complete. It isn`t proper to ask for money. In respect for your family and friends, it isn`t etiquette. I am sure that your parents have always told you that you should be thankful that a person thought enough to buy you something even if every person who came to your wedding bought a toaster. They loved you enough to buy you something. If you feel that you have to tell people to bring you money then you shouldn`t have them at the wedding and that will save you money. When you get married, you are asking people to share your day not share their wealth. I guess I just don`t understand. You tell people the gift that you want at your wedding, but when you have children, you tell them to be thankful that people buy them things no matter if it is the ugly sweater with the big stripes on it from Aunt Lucy. You can`t have it both ways. Word of mouth is the way to go. When she doens`t register, people will ask the family or just give money. Don`t turn the day into a Tammy Baker style collection.

I can`t believe that they even have a poem for this!?!?! WOW! I would never ASSume that people should bring me money. Tell them by mouth as the other poster stated. It is much better than ordering them to bring cash.

Oh this is bad! You don`t ever send out demand letters (or poems as the case may be) for gifts of any kind, money or otherwise. It`s just plain old rude!

I have recently heard of a couple getting married, who didn`t require anything in the way of gifts. So, as their budget was tight, they still wanted all their friends and relatives to be part of their big day, requested in leur of a wedding gift, could each person pay for their own meal which I think worked out at around $30 each.Most guests were very happy with this arrangement.

Where does everyone on here get off saying that this type of poem or the mention of a "money tree" is demanding that the guest bring money? I am getting married soon, and I could care less if anybody brought anything, yet I am mentioning the money tree in my invitations because my fiance and I already have everything household related that we could possibly need. We see no need to register for gifts anywhere because we already have those things. So since we aren`t registered, IF, and I repeat IF, someone wants to bring a gift, they have no idea what to bring. Instead of them having to think up some kind of present that they THINK might be appropriate(but will probably just be returned), we mention the money tree. This is in no way a demand for cash, and shouldn`t be seen that way. Its a quick and easy way for those that want to provide a gift to give something that can really be used. And if it isn`t mentioned on the invitation, you might wind up with 4 toasters and 3 sets of pot holders and nothing on the tree because no one thought to bring cash to the reception. I know there are some people who will shout at the top of their lungs that it is inappropriate to mention gifts and or money, but I think the larger majority are happy to have the option of giving cash IF THEY WANT TO.

Many years ago like all other traditions money was pined on the brides dress to help pay for the honemoon. I don`t know if this was an African American tradition or just a tradition period. Instead of asking planned having people pined some money on the dress and hope others will follow.

Have you ever heard of a wedding "dollar dance"? Or is that reserved for the Hispanic community??? Just wondering because a "money tree" would fit in as an alternative and believe me, it is not an insult, it`s TRADITION!!!!

I have been to several weddings where there was a money tree. I have never heard anyone complain about having one or say that it was inappropriate. I am getting married in 2 weeks and everyone that I have talked to has said we should have a money tree or a money dance. Family, friends, co-workers. It is a tradition.

I am though interested in a poem or saying for the tree that will be at our reception. Although I didn`t make a note in our invitations, we did note where we had registered for convenience. I know I would appreciate that. If a guest didn`t then they can just not come. I would hope they would love and understand me enough to know how my fiance and I are.