Wedding Assignments
My brother is getting married in May, and his fiance` and him continuously assign me roles, that are communicated through my mother. I have a one year old and a three year old and am pregnant. When I try to communicate my concerns with wedding roles that they assign my family in the wedding, I keep being made to feel that I am not allowed to have any say in the matter. Usually my concerns have to deal with being able to take care of my children. For instance, the bride has decided to have my husband as an usher, my kids pulling or sitting in a wagon coming down the isle, and my sister nad I bringing up the gifts. I communicated that since my kids generally act up in church, I think that it would be wise for my huband and I to be able to step out with the kids, and that maybe my role should just be to watch the kids, and facilitate a smooth running wedding. This was not taken well, and my brother told my mother that he was extremely disappointed. Help! I can`t wait until May when this wedding is over!
Posted by Judy; updated 01/08/05
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My mother has communicated yet again to me that now the bride wants me to organize her shower in the Boston area, as her best friend is giving her a shower in Georgia. While I love her dearly, I wish Lydia would talk to me directly. How can get her to talk to me directly with out saying something to her.
Posted by Judy; updated 01/08/05
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"How can get her to talk to me directly with out saying something to her."
Umm, you want her to talk to you directly but you don`t want to say it to her directly? Sounds as if you are guilty of the same thing you are complaining about. If you don`t call her then you really can`t complain.
Posted by Kendra; updated 01/08/05
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You need to call and talk to your FSI. It doesn`t sound as though you have a relationship with her. In a few months weather you like it or not you will be family. If this is how it is now do you want it to stay this way forever....ummm listen Jane wants you to bring the green bean casserole for Christmas....wah wah I wanted to bring the salad instead. Call her and talk to her, offer your help, tell her to call you if she needs anything. It is very hard being the newcomer in a family especially when your the daughter in law and there are sisters.....Take the high road and extend a hand I`m sure it will be appreciated, and make for better family relationships down the road. Good Luck.
Posted by BridesMom; updated 01/08/05
