Am I Too Young To Get Married?

When he is 21, you will only be 17 (if I did the math right). I think that`s too young to get married. Some couples marry young and manage to make it work. But most teenage marriages end in divorce. There is so much more to marriage and family then just being "in love". First love is a wonderful time in your life, enjoy it, don`t be in such a hurry to tie yourself down. I know you think you are differrent, but very few of us actually marry our first loves. Thank God! When I think about what my life would be like today if I`d married the man/boy I loved when I was 17, I shudder. It`s too awful to think about. I said no because I wanted to go to college. He married another girl a year later and they might be in love, but they have no money, they have three young children, they live in a dinky apartment in the projects and he works at Burger King and takes the bus to get there. I thank God for helping me to see that 17 was too young for marriage.

I got married at 21 (22 now) and I think that might be a good age. With you being 14 now, that`s a 7 year wait. I think its very mature of you to decide to wait that long, when others have posted on here that they are 14 or 15 and are getting married next year. No matter what your age you can`t predict whether your relationship will work or not (hence the need for divorce). Just make sure that you aren`t making any sacrifices in your life that you may regret if your relationship turns sour (ie. College). Marriage is a way for two people to bring their lives together and support one another in a constructive way. If you find yourself changing for another person, then perhaps its not meant to be. All the best of luck.

I got married at 21, just last May, we are expecting our first baby this month!!!!!! If it was meant to be then you both will wait until you are 21 if you choose and if everything goes smoothly tioll then, then do it. Yes, it is a while to wait, and just cause your friend is getting marrried doesn`t mean you have to, for now you guys can treasure the moments you have now and save money. Our wedding cost us $10,000 and we were told beffore hand that that was the average cost for an entire wedding...... THen the honeymoon was 4,000 for a cruise.

Ah, so you were pregnant when you got married - shotgun wedding. You`ll be divorced in two years - max.

I think Brains is very rude. No I was not pregnany when I got married I was married a week and found out I was 3 days pregnant. Thank you.

Not real good with birth control are ya? Concept is a bit too tough for you isn`t it now.

How odl are you, you act like 2!!!
Good night

First of all, who gets engaged at 14?! Whos parents let them?
Secondly, if this isn`t a prank post, your boyfriend`s a perve if he`s 18 dating a 14 old. I think they have a word for that...yeah...he would be considered a pedophile. You may feel flattered to have the attention of a man but the truth is you`re just a young girl.
So my advice is YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE. While 21, is a fine age to get married, 14 is way too young to be engaged!!

It is impossible to determine whether or not a person is pregnant when they are only 3 days into a pregnancy. It takes AT LEAST 14-21 days for a blood test (more accurate and able to determine pregnancy earlier than a urine sample) to detect the hormones released during pregnancy. It is unclear to determine whether or not pregnancy begins from conception (when the sperm fertilizes the egg) or from implantation in the womb (typically 24-48 hours after fertilization). A woman doesn`t even begin to produce pregnancy hormones until after implantation (however, this point is still moot as the hormones produced would still be too low to detect at such an early stage). Although I do think that it was wrong to be so rude about your pre-wedding pregnancy (as it must have been - according to your due date), I also am just trying to point out that the way to retort to a rude person is not to answer with a lie because then you are the one who sounds foolish, not them. You shouldn`t be ashamed for becoming pregnant before your wedding, however, you should be ashamed for lying about it.

Sarah,
I did not lie I was not pregnant before the wedding my doctor was real accurate due toi when I stopped Birth control, that is how we both absolutely know, yes you can get pregnant on the pill but after 5 years of not getting pregnant I find it pretty hard that it happened before the weddding.

Oh good God, who cares exactly when Valerie got pregnant? Even if she got pregnant right before her wedding, you cannot plan and go through with a $10,000 wedding within a few days or one week for that matter, so it wasn`t a "shot gun" wedding! Obviously they had been engaged and were getting married in probably just a few days anyway. If you want to start a family right away, why wait? It sure as hell isn`t any one else`s business! Congratulations Valerie. I just got married in September at 22 and if my husband and I were better off financially we wouldn`t have waited. We just bought a house in June, so we will probably wait a year before trying.

A good test if you are mature enough to get married is how you make decisions for yourself. When you ask strangers on a website if you should get married...YOU SHOULD NOT

In away Goodygirl is right most first loves dont work out, but on the other hand some do for example me, I`m marring my first love we`re only a yr apart though and we`ve known each other since we were 14 I guess I`ve just been lucky we`ll be married in 7 months. My opinion to your question, I think that you are to young to get married. I think that you should wait because if it`s meant for you all to get married then you will, but wait till your 21 atleast. Don`t do anything you`ll regret. Best of Luck!!

Get married whenever you want to sweety.... The 14 year old...lol your just a lil baby. Pleasetell me your a virgin???

Im 18 and my boyfriends just turned 29. Were thinking of getting married next year. What do ya`ll think?

Ok I am 21 and my soon to be husband in April is 19. We were 18 and 15 when we first got engaged. Age is no matter. I thinks its great you are that much in love, and while waiting is hard, what really besides his last name are you missing right now not being married to him?
I wish you the best of luck if you want to talk email me
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I am now 23 and engaged to my true love of my life. I was 15 when I met my first "real" boyfriend who I dated for 4 years until I went to college. I wish I listened to people who told me that I will probably not marry my first love. Although I will NEVER forget my first love, I greatly value the time I allowed myself to have meeting other people in between my first bf & my current fiance. When I look back I think I was so foolish. Enjoy your teenage years & all the growing up you need to do first. Find out who you are, then start looking for someone to compliment yourself and your great qualities you have developed. Don`t get me wrong, you may date exclusively but please don`t convince you`re self that at 14/15 years old you have met your soul mate. The odds are against you, but if it does work out in the long run at least you know it was really meant to be & don`t look back with regret & questions. Your teenage years are very confusing times in your life, but the only advice I can tell you is to take advice from people who are wiser than you & have gone through very like experiences. I wish you the best of luck because you deserve it.

Hey , dont worry if you think he is the love of you rlife go for it. Make sure your parents and his parents are ok with it. In my opinion wait until you are 21. It is much easier. Take it from me i am 17 married and with 2 kids. So if you need any helpe dont hesitate on calling me to 787-349-8131

I don`t think she is asking if she is too young to get married now... But if 21 is too young. I don`t think there is anyway of knowing that right now. I mean 7 years is a long time for you to change and grow, its better to deal with when probably when you get a bit older. I wish you the best of luck with your fiance

Hi there i`ve read every single posting in this section and i have to say some ppl are really rude!!! But my opinion is that age is just a # if your in love then your in love you cant put a age limit on love or happiness and yes there is a thing called first love and im the perfect example of that me and my fiance started out as friends when i was only 14 he was 17, we worked together and i was in another relationship with a very older guy and he had his own girl to deal with. Then one day something changed and i couldent look at him as just my friend any more there was a connection there and sure enough there was!! A week later we were dating and havent been a day apaart since theres no one i would rather be with, love is weird though bc it hits you when you least expect it everyone in my family put us down had no faith in us and my friends ( who were all just jealous) talked about me awfully but just like shania twain sings so beautifully in her song " They said i bet there will never make it but just look at us holding on strong, were still together still going strong"And thats exactlly what were doing today and are planning a huge wedding at the end of september, despite what any one says or thinks you yourself is the only one who knows if your in love and if your ready to get married and now that im 18 and hes 21 were ready to take the next step in our happy life together!! I would say that at 14 you may want to wait just a while though bc your mom will have to sighn for you and thats not fun, thats why i waited till now or we would probablly be married allready but just make sure your finacially ready and mature ready because it makes it very hard if your not. So go on girl and be proud to be engaged if your happy and just live life to the fullest, best of wishes to you,

I think 21 is a fine age to get married if you are ready to settle down. But if you are still in your partying stage dont try to get married. It will be hard on you and your spouse. You are going to get into fights just because you want to go party when you really you need to stay home and clean house or do the bills or maybe even go to work.

I`m 20 and I just got married a month ago to a man that I completely love. When I was 14 years old, the guy I was dating at my church asked me to marry him. We had known each other for seven years and "dated" for 2. I was extremely excited about this and planned on marrying him after highschool. A year later, he wouldn`t even speak to me. During highschool, I dated alot of people and then went into college. In collge I found out that what I wanted more than anything was to be a doctor. Now, I`m pre-medicine and my husband is an engineer. My ex boyfriend from when I was 14 now ranks among my top "most annoying people" list. Long story short, if you two don`t make it until you are 21, don`t think that no one will ever make you feel the way he did again. For everyone there`s more than one "right person". Trust me.

I think that 21 is a great age to get married.... I`m 17 now.... And my bf is 21.... And we are engaged... Getting married in 2009..... Why then?? well it is on the date we met.... And that is special to us.... Also ..... I will have finished uni then... And started my carrer.... And the wedding won`t get in the way of anything.... We are excited 12749 days.... Lol..... Ne way..... As long as u love the person.... And u accept their faults as well as all the good qualitites .... Anything can work... As long as you belive in it..... I see my bf once every 2-3 months for 2 weeks.... As he lives on the other side of Australia.... And we are still going strong.... Absence does make the heart grow fonder.... And hey his moving down soon.... And everything will be worth it :D

I am 24 and have been with my husband since i was 14 years old, we just got married this year and i am 24 now. At 21 you are not ready, your life is very different from 21 to 24, you have alot to do in those years. At 21 I traveled and hung out with my gfs, enjoy your life when you are young, trust me you will be happy you did. If he loves you he will wait and he will also understand if he is mature himself. Being in love is great enjoy eachother, love eachother because soon enough you will be old and you will look back and see that really didnt do the things that you wish you had, dont try to grow up so fast.

Hey gurl, its lupe i no u don no me but i think that if he hasn`t gotten in yo pants yet and he loves you then u r never too young, but u still gots to get an edication, ha lol i kan`t spell it. Yea u still need to go to school, so that wen u to get yo kids you both can support them, well holl back @ yo gurl,

Lupe g

I would like to give some advice on this...I am 28 years old i got married when i was 15 years old,and NO i was not pregnant... I have an 8th grade education if you can call it that.I have 2 children my first when i was 16the 2 at age 17..Don`t get me wrong i love my husband and our lives are great now thanks to the lord..But if it had not been for gods blessing and my husband going to trade school i don`t think we would have made it..for 4 years of our lives we struggled with no help form anyone we could not afford a nice place to live or pampers even formula..If your going to get married educate yourself make your life wounderful from the begining ..If i had to do all over again i would.. Don`t live your life with regret..The most important thing is do all the things you dreamed of before you do all things you both dreamed of.. You need to be selfish get it out of your system because when your married theres alot of comprimise you CAN NOT BE SELFISH then..thank you

Me and my boyfriend have only been together a month and we truly want to spend the rest of our lives together. I`m 18 and he`s 21. I don`t want to marry until I`m in my 20s at least and he shares the sentiment. I wanted to marry my first love when I was 15. When we broke up after only 5 months I found out he`d cheated on me numerous times with his best friend (female). You can`t always trust your heart. Just make sure you listen to your head too.

I think you are too young. You havent really had time to enjoy life or explore new things. 21 is still kinda young, but wait maybe by the time you turn 21 you`ll say too yourself wow i`m glad I didn`t make that move.