I Want To KILL One Of My Bridesmaids...

She is not your friend as true friends don`t act like that, sorry you had to find out that way. In terms of your wedding, I would suggest, hire a day coordinator, we are using one. Her name is Natalie and she covers all US. You can e-mail her at info@cupidsgrandeur.com.
You can tell her Jessica sent you.

Good luck

Boy, sounds like my wedding last May, I have a jealous friend too!!! To try to answer your question. WHen is your wedding where are you from, just curious!!! Here is what I would do, I would seriously talk to her and explain that you already had had someone else in mind for the maid of honor and that if she could be a bridesmaid that was just as an important job. If she doens`t like that then lay it down hard, about her not being in it atl all maybe she should just be a guest and then she can really enjoy her self ther with no responsibilities......

My wedding is in July in Hawaii. Everytime I decide to grow the nerve to tell her, she says something to the effect of being really excited about my wedding. The other day she said she`s already started writing her speech! (Of course, she also mentioned she can`t wait to get loaded at my wedding on free booze - haven`t had the guts to tell her its a dry wedding just for that purpose)
My friend just found out she`s 3 months pregnant with a baby (1 in 3 chance its her husband`s) and she`s not living with her husband anymore. So now I have to figure out how to get measurements for her because she`s due three weeks before my wedding so of course she won`t be at her biggest but she won`t be at her pre-pregnancy size either. I`m so frustrated I want to cry. Not to mention my husband can`t stand her and neither can my parents.

Quit letting this cow bully you around. Do you have a maid of honor in mind? This is YOUR wedding. Muster up some confidence, have a drink, loosen up, call her and let her know who is going to be your maid of honor. She will ONLY continue to bring you drama. Do you love her or not? Weigh the options, is it worth the drama?

I really don`t see what the problem is. Why are you so afraid to tell her? Are you afraid she`ll be mad and won`t attend your wedding? Afraid she`ll no longer be your friend? Well, if that`s the worst that can result from your phone call, then big deal! Why would you care about losing a "friend" like her anyway?

Y don u just call her n say.. Tht u n ur husband have decided to make (name of who ever u choose) ur maid of honour and tht you decided not to make ur friend the maid of honour coz shes pregnant n u really din want her to go through so much of stress as its not good for the lil 1 its better she be a guest n relax.. N enjoy..

I know how you feel right now. My wedding was last summer and it was my MOH who behaved like this, 6 months pregnant on my wedding day. Do yourself a huge favor and rid yourself of this person ASAP. She seems like a very self centered person and I can see her suddenly becoming "ill" or having false labor on your wedding day. Anything to ruin it for you and get some attention for herself.

My MOH bailed on the bridal shower she was going to throw and lied to me that my MIL excluded her, and then completely blew off even planning or throwing the bachelorette party she insisted I had to have because her son was sick (the day of the party), and she was going on a very cheap trip the following weekend so she didn`t have the $ to do it. She said I was selfish in expecting her to do it (even though it was completely her suggestion, I didn`t want one) if it meant leaving her son at home with her husband or not go camping.

Everythime I asked her help with favors, invites, or whatever she always had an excuse, her PC wasn`t working, she isn`t crafty, she can `t breathe in the glue fumes (non toxic glue and adhesive strips). On the day of my wedding she didn`t show up until 25 minutes before the ceremony started, not in her dress. And the sunlight made her nausous so she didn`t participate in any of the activities and only one picture, she ate and left.

Save yourself the heartache and frustration this girl is likely to cause you. Let her know it isn`t going to work out. You have no way of knowing what her measurements will be, she lives too far away to stay involved, and your fiance would prefer someone else in her place. She`s not a real friend anyway. Look at this as a blessing, maybe she will be mad enough at you for excluding her from the wedding party to never talk to you again.

Just tell her she is NOT in it. It`s hard for me to relate because I`m a very outspoke type person. But ask yourself if you really want to deal with the stress and uncertainity of this so called friend. Which brings me to my next question. I know every friendship has it`s problems but can you tell us anything good about this friend and/or your friendship with her. If you can`t then sounds to me like you need to cut ties and move on. When I first met my fiance my best friend was also jealous but she GOT OVER IT, and now she is very happy and extremely supportive of my wedding. That is a TRUE FRIEND. Good luck.

Time to pick a new MOH!!! She`s not a good friend

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R U MY TWIN?? I went through the same thing!!!!!
Before we decided on a smaller wedding, I cut one of my bridesmaids out completly! You should do the same. In an event like this you have to be "cut throat". You need to think of you and your fiancee first. Is she paying? Tell her what she told you, "it`s a family thing". Have yall been friends for a long time? If so, you`re only friends with her now b/c you`re used to her! Yall haven`t been "friends" for a long time and you are the only one who hasn`t figured it out yet! It hurts to lose a friend trust me (going on two years now). I may sound corny, but it hurts at first but she`s holding you back from your blessings! You need to cut here out of your life before she ruins it!

Here`s a great trick: find someone you have known longer than her and give it to her...you know, I`ve known so and so longer, so I really want her to be my maid of honor.

The maid of honor needs to do a lot more than show up--she is supposed to throw you a party, help you with stuff, and look out for you. It really doesn`t sound like this girl is going to do that. I wouldn`t make her more than a bridesmaid...and given how you feel toward her, I wonder if you should do that.

It sounds to me like your friendship is just about toast as is, if she is truly so irresponsible or self-centered and if you, your husband, and your parents all dislike her.