DESPERATE!!!!!
I need help, here it goes, im getting married in 8 months, and i already asked some close friends and family to be my bridesmaids, well at my place of employment i meet a girl and ive known her for about 6 months, well i asked her to be one of my bridesmaids i guess i felt alittle sorry for her, she has no family she has no car, i give her rides, but i feel like she kind of uses me alittle and she`s a very negative person and i dont need that i have enough stress with work, school, planning the wedding, well i dont want her in my wedding, shes turned out to be very mean and rude and alittle selfish, i really need some advise, i talked to my mom and my fiance and they just tell me to leave it alone and dont say anything but i feel i should but i dont know how or when im planning on ordering my invitations pretty soon and i need to do something like now. I know its kinda like an invitation that you dont take back but if you knew this girl you would want to. Please some help me !!!!!!!!
Posted by J.; updated 12/15/04
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Maybe you can just tell her you couldn`t come up with another groomsman and you want both sides to be even. Meaning if you had her and no one extra on your hubbys side it would be off. I know it does not have to be even these days but, I am trying to think of ways to help you let her down easy. You have to work with her so you should be gentle seeings how to are forced to deal with her on a daily basis.
Lots of luck! ;)
Posted by THENEWMRS..; updated 12/15/04
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Thanks for that idea but the thing is that she already has a groomsman set to stand with her and he also works with us. I just dont know what to do. Thanks
Posted by J; updated 12/15/04
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I`m not trying to be rude, I`m saying to you what I would say to my sister or good friend. You got yourself into this, now all you can do is grin and bear it. You knew what this girl was like when you asked her to be in the wedding. You can either be totatally honest and tell and tell her rescind the invitation to be a bridesmaid or just be gracious and hope for the best. I`m with your mom and fiance on this one. Leave it alone.
Posted by goodygirl; updated 12/16/04
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I guess i just might leave the situation alone for awhile to see what happens, i think im just going to have to be a big wennie and have my fiance tell her for me. But if theres anyone else with ideas or suggestions please... Let me know. Thanks
Posted by J.; updated 12/19/04
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Have her do the guest book, maybe tell her there were too many people in the wedding, and you could really use her somewhere else..
Posted by Angela; updated 12/21/04
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To those that gave me some advise,thank you and i also have decided to just deal with it and have her stand in my wedding unless something comes up and theres an opportunity to let her down easy. But for now shes in, ive just had a talk to her and have just let her know that lately shes been alittle rude and that i was kinda tired of it and she said that she was sorry so things are fine (right now) but who know what might happen down the road. Thanks again ladies, if theres anyone else out there with some advise let me know.
Posted by J; updated 12/22/04
