Fiance Asking Parents For Approval!
My fiance just got offered some really good health insurance with his job. I have some insurance with my job but it is not that good at all. I have to some health issues that I need to get taken care of. I told him that we should just put me on his insurance that way I would be covered too. The only thing is that we have to be married. I told him that we should go and elope and then have a get together with friends and family come the summer. He said that he had to go and talk to his parents about it first. I guess I just figured he would be up to it since it is my health and all that we are talking about. What should I do?
Michaela
Posted by Michaela; updated 12/11/04
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Umm.. It doesn`t sound like a good idea to get married. You state only your health issues and getting on his health insurance as reasons for getting married. And he feels the need to consult his parents before making his own life decisions. Getting married is not just something you`re "up for" as you put it. I say, with the info you`ve provided and health insurance being your priority, it`s probably best to wait until you are both ready for the right reasons.
Posted by jujubee; updated 12/11/04
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I agree with j....Are you talking about getting married just to be on insurance? Don`t do that, its a terrible idea! You aren`t ready until you are ready to get married anyway--for LOTS of other reasons.
Posted by Danielle; updated 12/11/04
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I understand where she is coming from. I don`t think she is saying that she is getting married just for the insurance. I think they are probably wanting to get married sooner because of the insurance. That doesn`t mean that they should get married. I guess we all need to look at if in a different view.
Shae
Posted by Shae; updated 12/12/04
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They are already engaged...she started the message by naming him her fiance...I think she just wants to get married sooner.
If it is for your health, I think that he should be supportive. AFterall, you have already made an informal committment to be together forever...
He may want to have a wedding though, and his parents may want him to have a proper wedding with family and friends...not a courthouse arrangement. That may be why he is consulting his parents.
Posted by Becky; updated 12/13/04
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Are you SURE you need to be married to be on his health insurance? Because I`m under my fiance`s health plan. I don`t know if it depends on the insurance carrier or the state you live in (We`re in NJ & I think it may fall under domestic partnership).
My fiance`s sister is also under her boyfriend`s insurance ( they live in PA)
Posted by Dawn; updated 12/13/04
