Wedding Nightmare
I am getting married in June. My fiance`s friend offered us to throw our wedding in his community room in his development. The catch is there can not be a limo because if his development found out he might take some heat for throwing a wedding there and my fiance and I don`t live in the development. I also want to have bridesmaids in the wedding and my fiance is telling me no after I had asked these people to be in it. He feels it would make a little obvious that a wedding is going on in the development and he doesn`t want his friend to get into trouble for it. We don`t have the money for a big wedding hall. And this community room is all we can afford. What should I do?
Posted by Melissa; updated 12/08/04
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It seems as if your options may be limited. If you want to use your friends community room then you are going to have to obide by his rules. However if you want more of a to do then I would suggest looking into other alternatives.
You can delay the wedding and save in order to afford a hall.
Do you belong to a church some churches have common rooms you can use.
Maybe an outside wedding. Local parks rent out pavilions that could be utilized.
But remember if you are going to use your friends common room then you need to follow his rules because he is the one doing you a favor.
Posted by Janine; updated 12/09/04
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Either have it the way that you can, or try to push plans back to save up a little more so have the wedding that you want. Can you find another place to have the wedding? Maybe in a backyard or rent a tent? Try to figure out other ways to have the wedding the way that you like at a price that you can afford.
Posted by Mika; updated 12/09/04
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So a Bride and Groom would not make it obvious to all that a wedding is going on?
Maybe after the ceremony you could have a small reception in the church hall and then everyone change clothes and go party at your friend community center.
Posted by AliceB; updated 12/09/04
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This sounds risky, and not because of the bridesmaids.
If you are breaking rules and someone finds out before its all over, what are you going to do? Check a church hall, check for cheap halls, etc. If yiou think this will be a problem!
If you need to use the space, your bridesmaids could just be in the wedding but wear nonmatching dresses, or all black dresses that anyone would wear to a social event. Then they wouldn`t stick out.
Thing is...Aren`t YOU going to stick out with a wedding dress on???
Just make sure you think it all through! It`d be sad to have to self-destruct at the last minute.
Posted by Danielle; updated 12/11/04
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After I freaked out about the rules and wanting to have a little to do,my Fiance spoke to his friend who is giving us this community room. His friend said he is friends with the people on the board in the community and assured me that everything will be ok. I can have bridesmaids, limo, etc... Hopefully from now til then nothing will change. Wish me luck!!! Thanks for your comments...
Posted by Melissa; updated 12/13/04
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Oh, good! I`m glad it worked out for you! :-)
Posted by Danielle; updated 12/13/04
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That`s easy, I think you must compromise. If you want to use that particular rec room, you can`t have an elaborate wedding reception.
Posted by goodygirl; updated 12/14/04
