Quincinera With Divorced Parents

Well Becky,
You and him should forget about you and think of her
After all its her specail day and she loves them both,
After all it is her Mother of birth and wants to have her in it, and prabably isn`t used to the ideaof calling you mom yet! but if their divorced it wouldn`t mean anything
But to her it would probably mean alot!! so just forget about what others think and make her day be special, cuz if you tell her that theirs no way for that to happen she`ll probably get mad at you both, and after all she`s the one whos gotta make the decisions as long as it doesn`t go to far!!

Her parents should walk her down the aisle. It would only work with the other way if she were getting married. It isn`t about your being remarried to him, it is about them being her parents and they are the ones who raised her so no matter what he feels and what you feel, it is her day and she has a right to have that. In the reality of it all, if she doesn`t want you there, she doesn`t have to have you there but in respect, it is nice that she includes you. I would have major issues if my daughter`s step mother or her step father had a problem with her father and I walking her down the aisle and I surely would NOT let her day go any othe way than how SHE wants it. I am going to end this before I get upset.

Tradition states that her birth parents walk her down the aisle as they are the ones presenting her as a young lady to society. Even if they were never married, her birth parents are the ones who escort her down the aisle. Even if that were not the tradition, it is her party and all involved should make her feel comfortable. I don`t believe that she is trying to leave you out or make you feel as if you are not family, she just wants the 2 people who made her possible to both be there when she is taking her steps into the transition of womanhood just as they were both there when she made her entrance into the world. I know that it is hard but please understand it from her point of view.

Join the club, i made 2, 15`s because my husband had custody of them but we were together for 8 years when i did the 1st and she chose not to have her mother their because we were going through court she was fighting for custody and lost and things were bad so her daughter decided for the best interest not to have her their on the 2nd my husband didn`t want her their but i told him to put his feelings aside, this was her day if she wanted her their she would be their but my step daughter chose me to walk her down, even though her mom went and i got the best mothers day card also, she told me when her and her boyfriend she`s 18 now, went to chose them he thought the one that had very special things in it was her biological moms card but she says no i don`t have memories like this with her, also my step son is in iraq and he has only me on his account to pay his bills, that tells you alot, but back to the subject let it be what she chooses, you`ll earn more respect by doing what she wishes, its only one day.