Etiquette Issues

WHAT IS THE REASON FOR NOT WANTING YOUR SISTER TO ATTEND THE WEDDING ?
I HOPE THAT THERE IS ANOTHER ISSUE OTHER THEN HER BEING GAY .IF THAT IS THE REASON FOR YOU NOT INVITING HER TO YOUR WEDDING THEN I HAVE TO SAY YOU ARE A DISGUSTING HUMAN BEING AND WHO ARE YOU ANYWAY? ANYONE IMPORTANT.!!!!!!!!!! REMEMBER SHE IS HUMAN JUST AS MUCH AS YOU ARE, BUT SHE HAS A HEART.

WELL...you certainly have some issues. Please reread the message. I am extremely close to my sister. I am inviting my brothers SO (signifigant other) but dont want to invite my sisters SO (signifigant other) she is a vile person that everyone hates being around (my sister knows people find her hard to be around!!!)
So I understand you must have some violent issues in this arena but be sure you know you are yelling at the right person next time before you go off (and not so eloquently I might add)
Db

SORRY FOR THE RUTHLESS RESPONSE. I ASSUMED YOU WERE DISCUSSING YOUR SISTER, AND YOU DID NOT STATE THE REASON FOR NOT WANTING TO INVITE. THAT IS MY FAULT I DID NOT READ IT CAREFULLY. I DO APPOLIGIZE FOR THAT.
I WOULD THINK THAT IF YOU ARE CLOSE TO YOUR SISTER THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER AND LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.

You are horrible.
And you are making every kind of problem for yourself.
If there are many children to be considered, do not plan a complicated wedding like that.
If your sisters and brothers have significant others, invite them, period. It is perfectly absurd to invite some and not others like that.
Or do as you wish and take the consequences and be known as a self-centered, selfish, inconsiderate, lout for the rest of your life.
Bruce

I just wanted to say that I think you Sam and Bruce are very rude. Don`t you think that this girl has enough stress and doesn`t need you to put her down?

Diana, I think that you have every right to not invite someone that you don`t want to your wedding, but you may end up causing your sister to not come to your wedding in the process. People can become very defensive if you try to disclude their significant other. Is there any way you can just ignore her girlfriend? If not, then I think you should talk to your sister and explain your feelings. If you are as close as you say, then hopefully she will understand. As for not allowing kids to the wedding, that is a tough situation. I think your only option would be to offer childcare to those guests that do have children. It isn`t very practical to ask them to be away from their kids for a weekend. If you supplied a sitter, then they could attend your wedding and reception without their kids, but be able to do all the other weekend activities with their kids. Good luck with all your plans. I am sorry that you have had such rude responses to your question. If you need to get good advice from great people you should use the www.talkaboutweddings.com board. Everyone there is very supportive and have tons of ideas!

THANK YOU DAWN!!!
I have settled the child issue - we really want family there and the kids are invited. We will have specific things that they will find fun and will talk about it with the parents to see if they would prefer a sitter for the wedding day (they probably will) and so we will provide one if wanted.
And for my sister and brothers SO - My brothers boyfriend will be unable to attend anyway. As for my sisters girlfriend- I am not inviting her.
She is extremely shy which means she will NOT interact with anyone BUT my sister - thus occupying all of her time, my sister feels responsible for her and it interferes with her time. Being my sis is such a MAJOR part of the wedding - if her girlfriend is there it means everytime my sis and I are together (supposed to be making memories) she will be there too. They have only been dating a few months and I really dont think this is THE ONE so why should I implant her into the biggest day of my life? Important info before you start yelling again...this girlfriend went home over x-mas for 2 weeks w/o my sis!!! She is going with her family on a w/o my sis too.
I feel ok with not inviting her, my sis will still come and not feel ill towards me and I wont have to put up with this person I dont care for constantly being around.
It will be fine.

Dawn - thanks again - I am over on www.ultimatewedding.com all the time now because of my brief experience here was so bad - hope to see you around there sometime!
Db