Potential Bridemaid

I have a close guy friend that is getting engaged very soon and I`m concerned that his new finace will ask me to be in the bridal party. I`m not close to his fiance, in fact I wouldn`t choose to be friends with her if she wasn`t dating my close guy friend. Also, I don`t necessarily agree with this marriage, which neither one of them know that. Someone please tell me how to decline when asked by my friends fiance? I don`t want to hurt either however, I simply don`t want to be a bridemaid in this wedding.

Thanks in advance - Deb
Posted by Deb; updated 11/24/04

Reply

Ooh tricky one! You could say that you have financial issues at the moment, which wouldnt allow you to be in d bridal party, or try saying that you feel it would be better if she had her close friends around though you`d love to help in some other capacity.
But please, why not consider just coming clean to your friend about why you dont want to be in the party as giving frequent excuses might make things awkward and put you in a bad light?
Hope this helps...
Posted by Mrs Bride; updated 11/26/04