Parents From Hell
Any Advice??
My boyfriend and I are eloping in a few months, with only 3 close friends attending the civil ceremony. We would like to host a dinner at a nice restaurant that same night which would include both of our families. My parents have not been very supportive of the relationship- which is why we prefer to keep the ceremony a secret. Is there a suggestion as to how to "spring the news" on the parentals without having either family go off? We are NOT kids- we are in our early 30`s. Please advise!
Posted by Lou; updated 12/13/01
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Start with "I am pregnate and we just found out it is a set of triplets!", then tell them thats not true and give them the real news. Then if you need to, tell them that it is you life and they can be a part or not but there`s things that could be alot worse in life. Hopefully they are silly to feel this way but if there is maybe a true reason they feel this way you should have a good talk about their & your reasons. Just make sure you and your spouse get along, communicate, and don`t already have some of the problems that lead into devorse.
Posted by Krista; updated 12/15/01
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Look, you`re 30 years old-your parents can`t make your descisions for you, and this is YOUR wedding, not theirs. Don`t miss out on a wonderfull relationship because of your folks biased opinion. If they keep being totally unreasonable about you two getting married, I suggest that you two get married but let them know the exact day and date-that way, they will know that YOU have chosen that day and they can do nothing about that. Maybe in that way they will be forced to accept it....however, if things get out of hand and there are many arguements, I think you should get married in secret and keep it quiet until the dipute blows over-you`ve got good cause,-good luck mate!
Posted by Lou; updated 07/19/03
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We just got married, could you pass the peas?
Posted by Nausikaa; updated 07/31/03
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This is the chicken way out- but you could tell them over the phone or with a postcard and add a line at the bottom about how happy you are and wanting to celebrate with them when you get home.
Posted by Jewel; updated 08/05/03
