To Get Married Or Not To Get Married...cont`d
On top of the whole him wanting to get married and proposing to her after three days....they have already moved into an apartment together and everyone they know including his mom thinks that they are making a huge mistake and the only reason why his mom found out was because i went and told her she needed to talk to her son...her son plans on going to atlanta ga to elope and tell his mom and dad afterwards......its so screwed up and i just dont know how to get him to see that hes making a huge mistake....he hasnt even told his fiance that he got his ex (me) pregnant and i dont know when he plans on doing that but i just need some advice on what to do...im still in love with him....then i get a phone call from him asking me to leave him a lone for a while and i was like well how long is a lil while and he goes i dont know i was like til what after the wedding and then what u still dont want me to talk to you knowing that im having his kid and he knows it to and he just says im not sure how long....somebody please give me advice and read to get married or not to get married before this one becasue this just continues off that one to add more info. Thanks
Posted by keysha; updated 10/26/04
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I`d call the girl he`s marrying and tell her that he got you pregnant. I wouldn`t be confontational or anything, just give her the info so she knows what kind of guy she`s marrying.
After that I wouldn`t have anything to do with this guy. He sounds like a jerk and probably the best thing for you is to have him out of your life.
I would be a little worried though... Sometimes courts will side with married couples in custody suits.
Posted by mary; updated 10/26/04
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Again, Maggie the ignorant cheap $1 hillbilly bride is putting her foot in her mouth. Some people you have to ignore and Maggie is one of them. Listen, stop chasing after this guy. You loving him has no bearings on how he is feeling or he would not treat you this way. If he is making a mistake, it is his to make. He may feel that you were a mistake so what you need to do is to focus on your child. You putting yourself through further frustrations is not going to help your pregnancy. It could do more harm. Stop worrying about the man and put your focus on your child. He is treating you like dirt, he cares nothing about you or the baby or he wouldn`t do this. Maybe the baby was not in his plans or maybe he felt pushed, who knows?!? I can`t tell you not to love him but I am telling you for the sake of your baby and your own health, leave him alone and focus on your health. I wouldn`t call the fiance and tell her anything as that could back fire. You calling his parents was wrong, that is his business and the only business that you have with him is the baby. You doing that could make him hate you. If you love him, leave him alone and let him live his life. It is going to be very hard to do but it gets easier with time. He will come around soon.
Posted by Renee; updated 10/28/04
