Uninviting A Bridesmaid
I am the maid of honor for my best friend`s wedding. She chose one of her bridesmaids, let`s call her "Jane", mostly out of guilt. Jane is an ex-roomate and while she is a nice girl, she has a very negative attitude and is, in a million indescribable ways bringing down the whole wedding party. My friend regrets her decision and wishes she could un-invite Jane as a bridesmaid. Is this possible? How would she do it?
Posted by Marie; updated 10/19/04
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I would first speak with the bridesmaid before univiting her, to see if she can try and change her attitude about the wedding and to let her know that she is affecting others. She may in return step down and your friend doesn`t need to feel guilty.
GOOD LUCK!
Posted by Lori; updated 10/20/04
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Personally, I feel uninviting a bridesmaid is in poor taste.
Posted by Emily; updated 10/20/04
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Once you ask someone, you`re committed. Also, if a girl accepts, she can`t back out on a whim. When you are picking people to be in your wedding, you are basically choosing these people because they are close to you, have a special place in your heart and you know that you can count on them. If you are all the Bride`s friends, you would make sure that everyone is getting along and no one is making anyone (no matter the reason) feel unwanted or out of place. She is already stressed and frustrated trying to get the wedding together and really doesn`t need more than that going on in her life. While she is being negative, you guys come back with something positive. Keep yourselves in a good and positive disposition and maybe it will rub off on her but she was invited, she did accept and it`s time to move forward and make this a great day for the bride.
Posted by Mika; updated 10/21/04
