Siblings

It may sound selfish to so many of those out there that post but I can totally understand how you are feeling. I`m not in the same situation but I know the feeling of wanting your wedding day to be special and all about you. If it`s your first wedding then you have been waiting your whole life to plan and make your special day come true. I know that I did not want my day to interfere with anything else. I wanted it to be the event people would look forward to and I sure as heck didn`t want to share my special moments with anyone. You have to go with what is right for you. If the only time you are able to do it is 5 - 7 weeks after your brothers then I`m sure people will still anticipate it the same but it can also be an added expense. You may want them to be a part of yours and they may want you to be a part of theirs and that could add expenses neither of your budgeted for. Whatever you do though . . . At least in my opinion . . . Is DO NOT feel selfish for wanting your wedding day and the days leading up to it to be all about you.

I don`t think it is selfish at all, my brother is in more of the same situation than I am, he wanted to get married 21/2 months after me, but moved it almost a year after so they weren`t so close. He moved his because I was engaged and had my date picked out before him. I would say that if you can move the date then do so if that would make you feel better, but otherwise I woudn`t worry. I think your wedding will be just as anticipated as his was. If your family is anything like mine, they will love seeing eachother again so soon!!! Good Luck

Thank you for the replies. It is always good to get input to see if others share the same feelings and/or ideas. My fiance and I have been dating for nearly 8 years and it is the 1st marriage for both of us. I really don`t want to wait much longer since we`ve dated for so long, so the other option is trying to do it before my brother`s wedding (of course that poses other issues like taking the anticipation away from his wedding and getting into a month where the weather might be questionable) Needless to say we are cornered into specific dates b/c we are getting a break on the price. It`s just frustrating that after serveral years of dating and being several years apart in age from my brother that it comes down to having to plan a wedding only a few weeks away from his. And yes, another factor will be budgeting for both wedding might be an issue on several ends from myself, my brother, to even family!

No, I don`t think you are being selfish at all. And unfortunately your right your Wedding will not bring that same excitement as the first one. I don`t think though that you should hurry up and beat your brother either. I`m sure that will cause problems too, and you really don`t want to cause hard feelings with them. Have you thought about a double wedding. Those always enhance the excitement !
Good Luck