What Are The Groom`s Parents` Responsibilitie

My daughter will be having a formal wedding in October 2005. We live in MA. The wedding will be held in a hotel, full course meal, in a church.

What are the groom`s parents` responsibilities other than the rehearsal party? We are spending $25,000 on the wedding and know that there must be something else that the groom`s family should be doing. What is it?
Posted by Marilyn; updated 10/18/04

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If you are going by the old traditional wedding they are really not obligated to do anything. But in are modern time they could at least offer to help flip the bill. But if you are going by the old tradition Parents of the bride are to pay for all of the wedding expences. In theory it is because the parents of the groom are supose to take care of the couple for all the years to come if the son can`t take his part. Sorry!!!
But GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by Candida; updated 10/19/04

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THE MORE MODERN ETTIQUETTE IS THE GROOM`S FAMILY PAYS FOR THE REHERSAL DINNER AND ANY FLOWERS, SOME ALSO PAY FOR PHOTOGRAPHY. I BELIEVE THAT IS ALL. FEEL FREE TO ADD CORRECTIONS.
Posted by KERRI; updated 10/19/04

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In most modern "etiquette" cases, the groom`s family pays for the rehearsal dinner, flowers, the bride`s bouquet, boutonnieres, mother`s corsages, marriage license, wedding officiant, and honeymoon. Of course, everything is opened to interpretation. As far as the old fashioned etiquette, well, that is a LONG time ago. The groom is no longer the only source of support in a family; therefore, his family should be somewhat responsible for the wedding expenses. As always, ladies, this is my opinion:)
Posted by Beth; updated 10/19/04

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Thank you ALL for your responses. I am having a difficult time with the groom`s family who feel that they are not responsibile for anything.

I appreciate your kindness.
Posted by Marilyn; updated 10/19/04

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Times are changing ! Now a days more often than not, the brides family, grooms family and the couple all contribute to the cause doing whatever each can.
But recently when my daughter got married I said I was glad it was over....one down and one to go as I also have a son. They laughed and said "Well when your son gets married all you have to do is keep your mouth shut and wear beige".
Posted by Beth; updated 10/20/04