Asking For Money As A Gift

I just realized that people feel that just because they gave you money for your wedding or heard from people that they got thousands from theirs, they want to state this now on an invitation. I just don`t understand it. When did a wedding (basically a grand celebration) turn into share your wealth. It is really sad.

Honestly, I had never heard of such a thing until I was planning my wedding and found these boards. I have been invited to many a wedding as have my friends and I`ve asked them too, and none of us have ever received an invitation requesting any type a gift much less money. I`ve posted and asked many times on here about where these people are from, what part of the country etc, but no one has ever replied. I wonder if it is a regional thing, or just their upbringing. I was brought up in a middle class suburban neighborhood just outside of Chicago.
And another thing is when they ask their question and I reply with a "Yes it would be rude to include such a request on your invitation"...they attack you, or tell you to get with it, it is after all 2004. As far as I`m concerned good manners never go out of style, and I thank my parents for my views!

Boy are you right, I was attacked for asking why would anyone put that in an invitation since the wedding is all about you going to celebrate with them. Why should I be subjected to pay my way. I can only figure that is the reason they are asking for money. I even went to a wedding where the Pastor of the Church collected money?!?!? This was not a Sunday service! What were they thinking?!?!? I guess I must be from Mars because in my country, you are thankful for having family and friends celebrate with your on your day.

Amen, Camilla!

The reason I was looking for a reason to ask for money from those wishing to give a gift as due to the distance involved. We live in Houston, the wedding is in Trinidad, another recpetion is being held in Buffalo. If a gift is meant to be something for us to cherish, we cannot take it with us and either need to return it or leave it for someone else. The psrties at both locations are only so the families can meet the bride/groom for the first time.
But we have the idea that word of mouth will cover most of the people that wish to give a gift. Everyone who gets an invite will talk to somebody close to the bride/groom and that informant will relay the restraints on our ability to travel with any type of gift.

I think your guests will be smart enough to figure out that money would be the best gift for you under the circumstances.

You should look up the definaition of a penny wedding or penny bridal its mainly a Scottish tradition but it dates back hundreds of years whereby guests provided money towards the cost of the celebrations or towards the couple setting up home. Giving money as a gift is not a new concept its merely one that has been lost thanks to changing times. I think due to the fact that many couples have already set up home together by the time they wed, that its lovely to see an "old tradition" being re-instated.

Help!! I know this site might be for wedding but I need help with my daughter`s sweet 16. It is in January 12, 2008 We are doing all the preparation but, she doesn`t want the guest to give her anything. She wants money. I also agree that it looks bad to put money as a gift in her invitation. And we have 150 guests. What should she do??? Basically she has a lot of clothe, jewelry and just about anything. She is my only child. Any suggestions???? I thought about doing a gift registry at a store but they only do it for brides. Help!!!