Walking Down The Isle.
I did not pick my father to walk me down the isle. He is alive but I don`t think that he deserved the honor of walking me down the isle. Here`s why, My whole life my grandparents have raised me although I went back and forth the majority of the time I was living with my grandparents. I asked my grandfather to walk me down the isle and he was honored. But he then asked me why I was not asking my own father and explained how I felt. He told me he would do what ever I wanted on that day. The problem is I don`t know if I was wrong or what. Has anyone else had this problem? I do not have any relationship with my father and most likely he will not show up to the wedding anyways. I think I did the right thing I just need a little reassurance. Please Help.
Posted by Candida; updated 10/05/04
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You and I are in the exact same situation, except I do not feel like my decision was wrong at all. My dad is a sorry excuse for a father and a failure. When I was deciding who so ask instead of my father, I thought about my happy memories and the people who were in them were always my grandparents. So the decision was easy. Don`t let anyone tell you how you should have your day. Do you want to look back at your pictures a year from now and wonder what you were thinking(if you let someone change your mind)?
Hope this helps!
Posted by Carri; updated 10/05/04
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If your grandparents raised you than your grandfather has been filling the role of father to you all or most of your life and it only makes sense that he would continue that role on the most special day of your life. You are in no way doing something wrong. In fact, I think you are doing the expected thing.
Posted by traci; updated 10/05/04
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Thanks for the feedback. It does help alot.
Posted by Candida; updated 10/06/04
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I also will not be asking my father to be a part of my wedding in any way. He was never there for me and, like yours, he would most likely forget to show up anyway. As everyone always says, it`s your day so you do what makes you happiest!
Posted by Ally; updated 10/06/04
