Rehearsal Dinner Choas

Um...excuse me...BUT-aren't you acting a little spoiled & immature?
Have you ever stopped to think that maybe these people cannot afford to shell out $5500 for the rehearsal dinner!? AND, my goodness, where is this place that it is going to cost that much! My whole reception isn't even coming to but about $2800! That is catered (very elegant, too-buffet style, but, nice-nothing snooty)!
As is with tradition, the grooms parents are only responsible for the rehearsal dinner, nothing more. If they OFFER more, fine. It is not nice to ASK them to pay for anything else! OR expect more!
I am having a hard time accepting that my rehearsal dinner will at least cost $800. That is with just the ones
Who are involved in the ceremony. I think it is rude to include anyone else. I won't even be having grandparents there at the rehearsal dinner.
My goodness, if it 'doesn't fly' with your daddy, then, maybe HE should host it!
Yes, I agree, I wouldn't want a BBQ. It wouldn't be what I would deem appropriate. But, are you sure you looked into EVERY possible place? Milwaukee is a big city! I come from Kansas City, & there are tons of places that are pretty reasonable!
$20 per person is more than I am paying for my catered reception! I think they are being very gracious to offer that! I KNOW there has to be nice places that will be in that price range! Have you TRIED going somewhere other than the finest places in town?
I think that is more than giving on their part!
Why can't you just go to a nice, but not too pricey , restaurant & see what they can do for you!
I can see that you only want 'top shelf' on everything.
Maybe you should grow up a little & be grateful for what
Is being offered to you & if you are not happy, then, remember that they do not have to do this for you at all.
If this is what makes them happy, make the most of it.
I would be ashamed of myself if I threw a hissy & forced my FIL's (whom I love dearly-would NEVER act like you are!) to do something just to make me happy!
If your FIL's spent the $5500 just to make you happy-have you ever thought they may need that money for bills?
My goodness, what next! You expecting them to pay for the DOM?
OY!
Princess

I am paying for most of it, hick. And... They can afford it. Thanks for the advice. Have fun in Kansas.

Wow! By the way-I am from Kansas City, MISSOURI, not Kansas! Get your states straight!
To me, you are a very rude & crude person! You are very insulting! Not only to me, but, quite possibly to everyone you come into contact with.
I am not a hick-you don't even know me. Thank the good Lord for that!
Big deal if you are paying for most of it. The point I was trying to convey is that you are expecting too much from
Your FIL's. Try to come down from your pedestal in the
Clouds & realize that not everyone is as perfect as you are & that not everyone is made of money as you apparently are.
I pity those around you who try to choose a Christmas gift for you. Or ANY gift! I would be scared to death to choose a Wedding gift for you! Nothing seems good enough for you!
Just be grateful for the things people offer you & for what is given you out of the goodness of someones heart. If you keep acting like this, no one will want to even be around you.
Yes, I agree that your day should be perfect. Yes, I agree to having everything nice & elegant. But, you are going too far in expecting someone pay over the top for things.
Be careful, if you keep acting like this, your FIL's may decided to forget about the rehearsal dinner altogether.
THEN-you would come back here to this message board & gripe about that, expecting us all to feel sorry for you!
Too bad-this 'hick' knows that all you want is to have everything 'top-shelf' & to me-that is just arrogant & im-
Mature!
I am surprised anyone still wants to be around you! I feel like you expect the best & only the best from everyone you know!
You need an attitude adjustment!
I think it is great when brides-to-be are paying for most or all of their wedding themselves. My parents are paying for the majority of mine. I am paying for part. That is the way they want it. But, just because they are doing this doesn't mean I am going to take advantage of them & run the prices thru the roof! I don't expect the best! Just the best I can get at the best price I can get!
It has actually been kind of fun & makes me feel like a good daughter to try to find the best prices I can! I don't abuse my parents ability to pay for anything. Yes, I know you are paying for the majority.
I would be afraid to ask how much your wedding dress cost! (I pity the employee who helped you!)
Just please try to tone it down & don't expect the moon out of your FIL's. That is no way to start a marriage!
By the way-yes, you ARE paying for most of this wedding-but THEY are paying for the rehearsal dinner.
You are providing the only chaos in my eyes!
Princess

Oh! One more thing-just because they CAN afford it doesn't mean they HAVE to spend $5500! Yes, my FIL's can afford that much. But, I don't expect them to.
That is rude.
Princess

Princess-

I am glad I am not marrying you. It takes a lot of different people to make the world go around. If everyone was exactly like you, we would all hate each other.

Grow up.

Chaz

Lizabeth, you are ostentatious, pretentious, provincial crass, crude, arrogant, selfish, demanding, unpleasant, garish, and a total loser. You will never be able to relax and enjoy your own wedding or life if you don`t stop FREAKING OUT over things as ridiculous as a rehearsal dinner that QUEL HORROR cost less than $5,500. You are doomed to a life of dissatisfaction and misery if you don`t learn to coexist with others in a more graceful and mannered way. Princess is not the hick. From my view in New York City, you might as well be from the Ozarks instead of the `big, safisticated, cultural mecca` you seem to think Milwakee is.