Not Inviting Children...how Do You Tell Peopl

I`m not inviting children to my wedding to save $. My brother whom I haven`t seen in 8 yrs is invited and coming from out of state and has a child. I don`t want him to just show up with the child because it`s not fair to my other guests. Is there some kind of etiquette to this or a nice way of mentioning it to him via the invitation. (we don`t speak to eachother directly, maybe a seperate note in with the invite?) Please help!
Posted by Meg; updated 09/24/04

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Simply stated on the invitation:

"We are sorry, but we cannot accommodate children at this event."

You may wish to add contact information for babysitters as well, if you know any.
Posted by Maggie; updated 01/20/08

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I have seen the phrase "Adult Reception" used many times on the reception card or as corner copy on the invitation. If doing this, it would be nice, especially when some like your brother, is traveling, to help arrange a sitter for them. If there are a lot, pay extra for a small room with a sitter or two at the event, set it up with some toys, coloring books,crayons etc...and let those with kids know there is a place for them right on site where they can be checked on. Or just explain personally to each person that the real issue is not that the kids cannot come, but that you will not have enough food for kids. Perhaps they could feed their kids ahead of time, or bring something for them. At up to $40/plate, I can understand not wanting that expense. Most places will put together a kid`s menu for a lot less too and then you just give a count of numbers of kids there. JoAnne

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Posted by JoAnne; updated 01/23/08