CONTRIBUTE TO GIFT?

No if you were not invited then don`t give a gift. They didn`t have common thought to think of you, so don`t feel obligated to give them anything!

Many people are having smaller weddings these days. And although it would be nice to afford to invite 20 people from work, sometimes it can`t be done becasue of $$ and/or space issues. It is better to not invite anyone from the office rather than risk offending anyone who did not make the list. Remember you do still have to work with these people everyday after the wedding.

If employees are taking contributions towards a gift from the entire group, unless you strongly dislike these people, you should contribute. You may be hurt that you weren`t invited, but they will also be hurt when your name is not on the card and may couse problems with resentment during work in the future.

Not being invited to the wedding is not such a tragedy, other than a few fellow employees, you wouldn`t know anyone there anyway and may be stuck sitting next to the great uncle who has gas problems.

I agree with finally hitched to a certain point, if the couple getting married has any kind of dignity, they will not be offended if co-workers do not contribute towards purchasing a gift, a gift is not an obligation, it is given voluntarily, do not feel bad if you do not contribute to giving a gift, hopefully, whoever is behind organizing the donation of money towards said gift, will allow you to sign the card anyway, wish them well, add a little note before your name, if you word it right, that should be better than any material item you could give to them. Good Luck!!!

Since you aren`t invited to the wedding you have no obligation to give a gift. However, often coworkers aren`t invited and do a little office shower anyway as a nice gesture. I would consider this one of those types of things and contribute towards the gift. You don`t have to, but I personally would.

A guy at my office just got married, he wanted to invite a few of us.. But when it came down to it, if he invited us, he felt the ones he didn`t want there would be upset and think it was totally against them, when it came down to it, it was just too expensive to invite the whole office. I respected his decision bc I realize it is difficult to invite everyone that you want to. I still got him a gift & we held a little gift party for him here at the office.. He was very appreciative & it was a nice guesture!

But it is all personal preference, if you are not close to these people, don`t feel obligated, but if it is just chipping in on a gift from the whole office, i would do it

Good luck