NO Flower Girl!!
HELP!! Wedding is 3 weeks from today!! And the flower girl`s mother has decided to have her NOT in the wedding!! Its a long story!! Flower girl is neice to my future hubby!! She is my future hubbys brother child that he has not seen in 10mos. Brother is okay with her being in wedding but mother now is not as she is afraid that the child will be hurt seeing grand`s and other family that she has not seen in months. The dress is bought and the programs are all printed and ring bearer has no partner to walk with. There is no other young child in family to do this. What can we do??
Posted by Jena; updated 09/12/04
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Does she think she will be hurt, or scared? It is normal for the kids to get scared, even if it is in front of people they see all the time. I would sit down (or over the phone if face to face isn`t possible) and let her mom know the deal. I know personally that flower girl dresses aren`t always cheap, and kids do get scared. It is just a part of life. Maybe suggest having her sit in an aisle seat, so she can keep an eye on her daughter. Hope this helps.
Posted by christi :); updated 09/13/04
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Maggie is right. Forget about it. The wedding will go on without a flower girl and it will be just fine. Don`t worry about the programs. Most people will not notice, and those that do will do one of two things. They`ll either forget about it very quickly or they`ll ask, and all one has to answer is "unfortunately she wasn`t able to be here".
Posted by Linda; updated 09/13/04
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Thank you all. You are right we will still get married!!
The mother is right, the more I think about it because the mother is with the flower girl 24/7 as the father is not in their lives and will never be. The mother is the one that will have to answer the childs questions after the wedding not me or the father. I just wanted to little ones walking together but that is not going to happen!! But now I have a bigger problem. After my first post I went out shopping and tripped on the steps and
BROKE MY FOOT!!! AND THE WEDDING IS 3 WEEKS AWAY!!! So the flower girl thing is nothing compared to this!! LOL Got some nice heels to wear too!!! Looks like my mother will have to go to the bridal shop and get me some little white slippers!!! BUT IM STILL MARRYING THE MAN I LOVE AND HE LOVES ME!!
AGAIN THANK YOU ALL
Posted by Jena; updated 09/13/04
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Look I know this has come at a really bad time but my mom always say`s things will play themselfs out you can`t controll what happens sometimes. I have a suggestion your flower girl does not have to be a family member you can a close freind or a freind of your fiance stand up in the wedding. I wanted to ask my only niece but my brither just had a wedding in july and I don`t want him to spend money that he really doesn`t have to after just having his own wedding so I have a freind of mine`s daughter for my flower girl just don`t let things like this stess you out. GOOD LUCK!!!!! HOPE THINGS WORK OUT.
Posted by Candida; updated 09/15/04
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You could talk to the mother of the flower girl once more and explain that she is needed and find out her exact reasoning for not letting her be in the wedding. If the reason for not letting her in the wedding is she is afraid the flower girl will be dishearted due to seeing all the family and those issues. Then I would let it go. If the mother is just afraid that the flower girl will be afraid then you all could have her ride in a little red wagon and be pulled down the aisle(by the usher) with the ring barrier. You all could decorate the wagon. It would be cute.
Good luck with everything. The wedding will still go and and I would let that be the lease of my worries.
Posted by Melissa; updated 09/16/04
