Expensive Bride`s Maid Dress

If I were in your position I would borrow the money from a friend/relative and then after the stress of the wedding is over talk to my friend about the subsidizing she mentioned earlier. There is no way you can back out now bec/ with only 2 weeks to go you`re already in the party. Can you ask your mom/dad to lend you the other 40% you can`t afford ?

As you told them in the start that you could only afford a certain amount, the Bride should have stuck to her word about subsidizing the cost, however, that didn`t happen and you are in a very tight position. I would simply explain to her that you will do what you can to try to borrow the money but remind her (very gently as it can cost you a friendship) that you told her from the start that you could not afford that gown. Once you get the gown, try to re-sell it on eBay and get most of your funds back. I just say this, it is 2 weeks before her wedding. Put yourself in her position, wouldn`t you want that person to at least try to get the money as she really does not need to be further stressed on her day. I say that because maybe she did try but could not get it and just got caught up in other things dealing with the wedding and did not remember to tell you. If this is your friend, do what you can to make her day special. It will mean so much to her.

I would not borrow a red cent. If you have previously discussed this with the bride then you should go to the bride directly. The bride may not have informed the coordinator that she was helping to pay for your gown. She may have thought it could be embarrasing for you or something. So I would just call up the bride, tell her that the payment was due on the gown, and ask for the portion the bride said she would pay. If not I would just back out. But I`m sure it`s just a miscommunication. Also if the bride is not willing to hold up her end of the bargin personnal I would back out but that is going to be a choice you will have to make.

If the bride is a friend, which I`m assuming so since you are in her wedding, then talk to her. She may have forgotten to inform the planner of your deal as she is so stressed and busy right now, or maybe the planner is trying to make something on the side as well. You never know. But regardless, this is a friend and you made a deal with her. If you can`t afford it, you can`t afford it and you were upfront about it from the beginning. It`s not like you just now told them for the 1st time that you can`t afford it. Don`t borrow ANY $$$ from anyone. Part of you agreeing to be a part of this wedding is that the bride would cover some of the cost. If she can`t honor her end, why should you have to honor your`s?