People Who Invite Themselves!
How is everyone dealing with an acquaintance who assumes they are invited to your wedding? My fiance and I are on a very tight budget and can only invite 130 people. How do you tell people they aren`t invited without hurting feelings?
Posted by Kathy; updated 09/09/04
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The easy way would be to not say a thing and let them figure it out when they don`t receive an invite. The most tactful way is to nicely apologize and let them know you and your FH are on a very tight budget and are forced to keep the guest list small and limited to those who are closest to you. They don`t need to know you are iviting over 100 other people.
If you`re not that close, why would she think she was invited?
Posted by Finally Hitched; updated 09/09/04
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Simply call the person and tell her "I am afraid that I will have to decline your bringing an extra person to the wedding as the invitation was given just to you. I am sure there was a misunderstanding but as we are on a budget, we hope that you will understand our position." I am sure they will understand.
Posted by Mika; updated 09/10/04
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I am not sure that this will help or not but this is what we are doing. Our ceremony is only going to be for about 100 people. We are saving a lot of money by making it just family. Then we are having a huge reception where pretty much everyone is invited. We will only serve cake and finger foods. To make them feel like they are a part of it we are having a small post ceremony thing at the reception. We are going to have the minister say a few words about marriage and things like that. We have found that it really cuts down cost and everyone is included...for those who cant get the hint. So in other words most of the money will be going to the receptation since that will be a majority of the day! Hope this gives an idea! :)
Posted by Kristin; updated 09/20/04
