1 Ceremony And 2 Receptions
I am expecting about 150 wedding guests and plan to have an elegant and (expensive) reception at the Ritz-Carlton in Laguna Niguel, CA. However, my parents have A LOT of friends and are very active in their church and would like to invite 300 of their friends who are mostly in their sixties and DO NOT DRINK ALCOHOL (my parents and their friends always attend each others` children`s weddings). I would love to invite 450 people to the reception, but the cost would go from $32,000 to $77,000! My solutions is this: We will have the ceremony at a large church that holds all 450 people at 5 p.m. We will then have a quick dinner buffet with no alcohol for my parent`s friends (my parent`s friends would actually prefer to eat right away). My new husband and I will not have dinner there. We will say our hellos, get into the limo and head to the Ritz for pictures. We will then have a dinner reception for the 150 other guests (who are not invited to the buffet) starting at 6:30. Does anyone think this arrangement is weird or rude? Thanks for any replies
Posted by spark; updated 09/08/04
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Some people would say it`s rude, but I don`t really think so. Those people your parents are inviting are coming because of a relationship with your parents, not with you so why should you be expected to spend so much on a reception for people you really don`t know or care about.
Just make sure to try and say hello to everyone so they don`t feel like you weren`t even there.
Posted by stormy; updated 09/08/04
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There will probably be hurt feelings.
Posted by Linda; updated 09/09/04
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Im planning to do the exact same thing at my wedding and I think it`s a great idea. Only family and out of town guests and our close personal friends will go to the smaller reception, and the church reception that we have will be just like what all my parent`s friends are used to. They will never know.
Posted by sarah; updated 09/13/04
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Im planning to do the exact same thing at my wedding and I think it`s a great idea. Only family and out of town guests and our close personal friends will go to the smaller reception, and the church reception that we have will be just like what all my parent`s friends are used to. They will never know.
Posted by sarah; updated 09/13/04
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I think that you have it all worked out I highly doubt that your parents freinds will mind the only thing you need to be thinking about is you do you have enough time and, Can you still take pictures after you have one dinner already? Just know that this is your day and if time is a little short nothing can go on without the bride there anyway.
Posted by Candida; updated 09/14/04
