Estranged Family
I am getting married in may 05. My parents are divorced and on my fathers side of the family I have no contact, not so much that I don`t want anything to do with them but sore feelings between myself and a cousin`s wife. Maybe I shoud include they reason her and I don`t get along is because she tried to date my fiance after we were already together and she tried to claim that my sister mistreated my niece. WHich she most definately does not! I no longer go to the family functions ie holidays, birthdays, anniversary ect. So I am wondering if I should invite them to the wedding reception ( we are having a closed ceremony with only parents and siblings and grandparents) I worry that if I do invite them they will think I am inviting them just to get a gift. However I don`t want to make my dad and stepmom feel uncomfortable since they will have nobady with whom they are familiar with. Please Help.
Posted by tracie; updated 09/04/04
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I believe that if your heart is telling you that you only want your father and step-mother there, then that is who you should have at your wedding. It is your special day and you surely do not want to have anyone there who is going to make your day less than happy. On the other hand, I must tell you this, your cousin seem to be jealous of you. If she is telling lies about your sister and trying to date your fiance, then she wants the life that you have. You surely do not want that type of person at your wedding, however, do not allow her to keep you away from your family functions. Go to see and be with your family. Never allow anyone to keep you from communicating and enjoying your family. How will your future husband get to know them if you allow this one jealous person to keep you from them. Forgive her and kill her with kindness. Smile in her face while knowing that you are the better person and that you still came out on top and are marrying your fiance (the man that she wanted). Don`t gloat. Just be happy and enjoy your family but you don`t have to invite this person to your wedding. Your father is there for you, not for this to be a family reunion. He will be fine.
Posted by Mika; updated 09/04/04
