How Do I Have 2 Fathers Involved In Wedding

HELP!!!! I am very very close with my father, but I am also close with my step father who has done many things for me over the years as well... How do i have them both involved in walking me down the aisle without hurting my real father`s feelings.. I know that he appreciates my stepfather always being there for me.. But I feel my father needs to be the one giving me away.. Some have mentioned me having both walk me down, but still i feel like that is taking away the glory from my father...i thought about having step father walk along with us but then sit down as we continue to go up & dad gives me away, but wouldnt that cause to much distraction??? Please help! any ideas are greattttttly appreciated!
Posted by Megan; updated 08/31/04

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Since my mother`s been married 3 times, I`ve run into similar situations.

In your case, with only 2 fathers, it`s reasonable that they could both escort you down the aisle, one on either side of you, all the way to the end.

Of course, if either is picky about it, then you`ve got a tougher issue to overcome, which is more than protocol, it`s interpersonal or political. It sounds like you`re owning this all yourself, and a simple way to `test the water` is to ask each his opinion. Then you`ll know for sure how each feels and can make a more informed decision.

Since you posted you message nearly 4 years ago, I suspect you`ve managed the issue by now. How did you end up resolving your dilemma?

Best wishes,
Posted by A Friend; updated 01/24/08