More Then You Bargin For....

My MAJOR issue with his sister (until this weekend) was that she did not pick up phone or pull one of aside at our wedding shower and say something to us about this child coming to the wedding! If she would of had the respect to do so, then I would not have as big of an issue as I do. She is the RUDE one and this is our day! Most of you are saying that I am the rude one (keeping in mind it was my FH parents that said she could not come -- not me) however, in my eyes, she is the rude one.

However, after this weekend, its gotten alot worse. The place that we are having the reception at does not have 11 person tables - only 10. So, now with this extra child, we have NO WHERE to put her. His sister does not understand that. She has said that if they do not sit together then no one is coming. Mind you, her one daughter is in my wedding and we have already had all 150 wedding pamphlets printed and assembled. The reception place does not have tables of 11 -- what am i to do now! Its now 25 days before my wedding and I`m ready freak out on her. She is now ruining my day and I wish this never happened - I wish we would have said NO children in the wedding or at the wedding.

The child`s mother is flying her up for the wedding. That is how she is affording it. And just since this child comes ONCE a year to visit her father, she will not coming next year since she came two years in a row.... Next planned visit, 2006!
Thank you to all who are supporting us in the issue....

My MAJOR issue with his sister (until this weekend) was that she did not pick up phone or pull one of aside at our wedding shower and say something to us about this child coming to the wedding! If she would of had the respect to do so, then I would not have as big of an issue as I do. She is the RUDE one and this is our day! Most of you are saying that I am the rude one (keeping in mind it was my FH parents that said she could not come -- not me) however, in my eyes, she is the rude one.

However, after this weekend, its gotten alot worse. The place that we are having the reception at does not have 11 person tables - only 10. So, now with this extra child, we have NO WHERE to put her. His sister does not understand that. She has said that if they do not sit together then no one is coming. Mind you, her one daughter is in my wedding and we have already had all 150 wedding pamphlets printed and assembled. The reception place does not have tables of 11 -- what am i to do now! Its now 25 days before my wedding and I`m ready freak out on her. She is now ruining my day and I wish this never happened - I wish we would have said NO children in the wedding or at the wedding.

The child`s mother is flying her up for the wedding. That is how she is affording it. And just since this child comes ONCE a year to visit her father, she will not coming next year since she came two years in a row.... Next planned visit, 2006!

Oh good grief!!! I think you and your SIL are both being childish! If you don`t want the child there and they won`t come without her then FINE! Your wedding obviously won`t be destroyed without them there. About the one child actually being in the wedding then just cut that part out. Do you really need a flower girl? Or whatever role she will be playing. No one will care about the programs being wrong, I promise you no one will shame you for the error. As soon as everyone gets home from the wedding the program will be shoved in a drawer or thrown in the trash. I am sure you have other things to worry about than this issue. The wedding will happen no matter what happens with this situation.