I Dont Know What To Do

Don`t get married! He`s 22 and you`re only 16? He obviously isn`t that responsible! Having sex without protection, he should know better and know the seriousness of the consequences in a pregnancy. What`s wrong with your mother? Marriage is not going to solve anything! If you are having this baby, you can both care for him/her without marriage. You are too young, you have your whole life ahead of you, high school, college and everything else! He`s 22, did he even finish college? How can he provide for a family at that age? I take that comment back, he needs to take care of the baby but you need to get your education so you can offer this baby a good life. Good luck.

I remember when I first found out that my sister was pregnant. She was only 14!!! I was the last to know because my whole family knew that I would freak out (and I did). Well, my mother actually FORBADE my sister to marry the baby`s father (since they would still have to have consent). They did try to go the abortion route, but she was too far along. Needless to say, she now has a wonderful 5 year old daughter and also a wonderful husband (the baby`s father). Since my mom wouldn`t let them get married just for pregnancy`s sake, they were able to get through the hard times of having a baby. They got married when theur daughter was almost 2 and after they had suffered the "lack of sleep and sex" induced arguments, the hormones, and general baby frustration. Since then, their marriage has generally been great. I consider the both of them extrememly lucky. Not only are they good to each other, but they were lucky enough to have a loving and supporting family to help them both along the way. My mother didn`t have that . Her dad disowned her at 16 when she got pregnant with me, her mother had died a few years earlier, so there was no help from her. When my grandfather finally allowed us back into his life, I had to call him "uncle" because he refused to be acknowleged as a grandfather. My mother did have moral support from her grandparents, so things could have always been worse. Anyway, now I look at how my sister and her husband and daughter live and I compare it to how I grew up, there really is a huge difference. They are happy, somewhat financially secure (they just bought their first house, so they must be okay), and they have one of the happiest five year old I have ever seen. It just goes to show how much love and support will do for people.
Anyway, (sorry for the ramble) long story short.
Try to get as much supprt in whatever decision YOU make (it is your decision, no matter what anyone says). Things will always be tough, but the more support you have, it will alleviate some stress. Also, don`t get married just because you`re pregnant. I have seen that all too often, and I have never seen one work out. A new marriage is stressful enough, it is ten times as stressful when you factor in a new baby. Also, hold your head high. Don`t be ahamed of being a teenage mom (or of having an abortion if that is what you choose). There will be people out there who will harass you, call you names, etc. Just ignore them. Being a teen mom Does Not make you any less of a person or any less of a mom. Also, your mom or any other family may not seem okay with your decision now, but more than likely, they will be the first to take you to register for baby stuff. Mom`s really tend to get excited about babies (especially grand-babies!)
Good luck and I do wish you the best!

Don`t do it, like the other two ladies said you can still make a life for your child with out being married. I am 22 years old and was married this last May, we have this mutual friend (22) who got his girlfriend (18) pregnant, her mom was just like yours saying you have to get married. To make a long story short they are married but both wish they could go back and do it because they wanted to not because someone told them they had to or because she got pregnant. You need your mom`s help yes and she is looking out for your best interest but please don`t let her make up such a life altering choice for you. This is a decision you need to make by yourself and only yourself, trust me you will feel so much better about your choice in the long run because it was made by you not someone else.
Best of luck with what ever you choose to do!

ABORTION is the only answer here, dont waste your life ABORT ABORT and take him to COURT.

Abortion is not the only answer, that is a huge decision to make one that someone really needs to think about.
I personally had one, but that was my choice and one that I have to live with for the rest of my life. I could have a 3 year old by now and it makes me sad sometimes to think what if... But at the time it was a choice that I felt was the best for my situation. I am now married to that guy, we still have no children but when that time comes it will be a choice just as you have.

I know you`re entitled to your opinion, but Justice, I can`t believe you would tell this scared little girl to have an abortion. Unbelievable! No matter what, I believe that it is a life. They obviously knew of the consequences when they had sex, now they have to find a solution that`s best for both of them. As a parent I know it would break my heart if my daughter became pregnant at such a young age, but ALSO, there has to be communication between mother and child! Viv, think carefully and trust your head and heart! It will be hard to raise a child, but you`re not the first nor the last to have a child at such a young age, basically you have to deal with it, and remember there are other options ,keep your head, heart and mind open to those other options.