Is My Wedding Budget Too Much?

For such a big fancy wedding...I`d say the price sounds about right. A lot of my girlfriends who have married in Jersey had around the same number of guests and paid around the same price.

You are one luck chick count your blessings!!

My question is . . . If you were paying for it yourself would you still think $40K was reasonable.

I`m jeoulous as well. You can have a nice wedding without paying $40k, you can bring the cost down by having a buffet instead of sit down dinner. This oftten cuts it in 1/2 and don`t have an open bar! I think this is where you pay a lot. Also double the use of flowers, take them from the ceremony to the reception hall. Make your own favors, centerpieces, programs and other things if possible. I`ve always thought financing a wedding is bad, why go into debt to pay for it? I agree with the other post, if the $40k was coming out of your pocket would you think it was a lot to pay for a wedding? I personally think so, that`s $40k that can go towards a down payment on your first home, why not have something smaller, but classy?

I only wish that I could afford something like that. My man and I both recently finished college. We are paying for our own wedding and it really is making things tight for us. I am trying everything I can to get this wedding put together without having to take out a loan or something....you see I gradated with a degree in elementary education and in Minnesota it`s not easy to find a teaching job....so I am just working at Subway making min wage....but I know that in the end the wedding will be over and everything will work out

Sorry to go on and on....what I am trying to say is that if your parents can afford to throw you a wedding like that....go ahead....but if they cann`t....respect that and try to cut some corners......BUT NO MATTER WHAT MAKE SURE THAT THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE THEM PAYING FOR YOUR BIG DAY....YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH IT HELPS!!!

Good luck!

Seeing as there are millions of people in our own country living in poverty, not to mention the rest of the world, people dying of starvation every day, I say you should cut your budget in half and still have a spectacular wedding and ask your parents to donate the other half to people who could really use it. I`m sorry but you asked and opened the door, how dare you complain that they want you to spend less. It lasts one day! ONE FREAKING DAY! I could pay for two years of college for that amount! Yes, I think you are being rediculous, but that`s probably not going to change how you feel, I just think that before you ask this question again, you should take a moment and relfect on the more important things in life, like the fact that you are getting married, becoming husband and wife, rather than thinking about how much you can show off. Put that amount into the context of the real world and then consider how much is an appropriate budget. It just blows my mind how many people are so unaware of how fortunate they are. I wish you the best and hope that one day you realize just how lucky you are to have been born into a family that had enough money to feed you, put a roof over your head, and to even be able to offer to help you pay for your wedding, which is not something they are obligated to do. They raised you, they did their part. Anyway, good luck, I`m sorry if I came off pretty mean, it`s just that when you come from a family that has struggled and worked hard to keep above water and you yourself are doing the same thing, it just kind of makes you outraged to hear people upset that mommy and daddy won`t fork over $40,000 to spend on something that will last one day.

Hi ladies! I`ve read many great replies and advices. I would like to apologize if I came out sounding too bratty and snooty about this. It`s just that my parents had funded my other sisters` weddings, each averaging $30-35k, so I don`t understand why $40k will make a difference. Besides, I`m the baby in the family and the last to marry and my retired folks have more than enought to finance this wedding. I kinda regret that I wasn`t the "best" daughter in the family, meaning I didn`t get a long with my parents back in the days, and it would hurt my feelings if they are being difficult to punish me for being an "imperfect" daugher in the past. Anyway, I know that my parents will finance this wedding, no matter what. They like to save face in front of their friends as well. Thanks again for your advices and good luck with your own wedding!

If your parents were going to fund it anyway than why do you care what everyone else thinks, oh wait maybe it was to say look my parents are rich and they can afford this. You do look like a spoiled brat in my eyes, I had a beautiful wedding that my parents financed but I would never come on here and say is $40,000 to much to 80% of people who are financing there own weddings. You deserve a hard time from your parents, don`t be such the baby and thank them for what ever they give to you!

I don`t think any budget is too high. You want what you want and if that`s what it costs then it`s not too high for what you want.

However, you are not the one paying for it. Your parents are funding it and if they say it`s too high, then it`s too high! You`ll have to cut down on certain things and be thankful they`re paying any amount at all! It`s they`re money, not yours.

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Linda,
You`ve repeatly said that your sisters weddings were 30-35K....fine tell your parents to give you the 30K and you can pay the other 10K, or cut 10K out of it. See how important that other 10k is when you have to come up with it yourself. I don`t deny anything to anyone, but you really do come off as a spoiled little girl. I counted myself the luckiest girl in the world when my parents helped us as much as they could and together we had a beautiful wedding for 15k. I guess it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Good Luck!

`if they want nice, then they`ll have to put out` Are you kidding?????? If 40k isn`t to much to spend, then why arn`t YOU paying for your wedding?

My wedding for 100 cost 3k. Granted I live in tennessee where prices are lower, but I felt lucky to have my parents help me make that happen.
1k from each set and then we put the other 1k in and are paying for our own honeymoon.
And guess what? It was beautiful. Full of love and happiness and people enjoying themselves. What more could you want?
I can`t imagine having that much money to spend on anything. I definately wouldn`t complain about it not being enough.

I`m confused. 40k for 250 people actually sounds too low for a 5 star, sit down dinner, open bar. Every hotel I`ve checked out on the California Coast wants $150 to $200 per person. Thus, for 250 people, a 5 star hotel will easily charge $37k to $50 and that does not include flowers, photographer, limo, etc., etc., . May I ask which 5 star hotel this is? I would like to check it out because it sounds too good to be true

Dear Spark,

The hotel is called The Mansion on Turtle Creek in Dallas, TX (part of Rosewood family hotels, ever heard of The Carlyle in NY, that`s one of `em.) I am budgeting about $130 per person, depends on your menu choices. You should give them a call or check out the website at www.mansiononturtlecreek.com and see if you could get a better deal than the West coast hotels. I truly recommend this hotel! California tends to be very expensive compared to the South. I`m glad you know how I feel on my proposed budget being a little short. It is pretty expensive, indeed, but you only get married once, right? Good luck!

Linda

If you only get married once, then there would not be a such thing as remarriage. I think that no matter if you think that your parents are well off, the key word is that they are retired. They have to live. I think you shouldn`t be so selfish and since you feel that the 40k is not too much, then pay it all yourself. I don`t think you will see it that way when it is coming out of your pockets. Stop counting your parents money, it is just that, it is their money not yours and if they told you that it was too much, then you should have taken that and revised your budget or paid the rest yourself. Stop whining like a baby and be thankful that your parents are willing to pay for it. I think you are very selfish.

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