Uninvited Guests
In order to stay within budget, keep it personal, small, and not leave anyone that we wanted to invite out, certain people were not invited with the typical "and guest" next to their name (as many sites suggested). How do I nicely tell some of these people that their guests that they invited (can you believe it?) are not welcome. We gave the "and guest` to certain people with signifcant others (that we know and want to be there also) but not to those who will just be bringing these "random dates" that we don`t even know or that we didn`t invite for a reason. How do we tell them without looking petty or cheap or a jerk.
Posted by kelly; updated 08/24/04
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I can believe it. Don`t take for granted that your invited guests will be able to discern from the inner envelope addressing just who and who isn`t invited. A good example is the inviting of children. Many of my customers don`t want children at all, or only children over the age of 12, etc., I`ve handled it several ways; in the wording of the reception information, in the wording of the respond card, and the addressing of the inner envelope. Always include _____number attending on your respond card. If the number exceeds the invitation extended, a phone call should follow. Having said this, within certain cultures, this could be the kiss of death.
Judy Stark
Www.weddingcenterusa.com
Posted by Judy Stark; updated 09/05/04
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On the RSVP card, I would include the following;
_______ of 1 guest
Will ____ be attending
Will not _____ be attending
Posted by Lori; updated 09/22/04
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Regarding the suggested RSVP wording, what is the person responding suppose to fill in on that blank space?
Posted by Judy; updated 09/22/04
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The person responding would put a number 1 of 1 guest for example, and then check will or won`t attend the event.
Sorry, if I didn`t make it clear.
Posted by Lori; updated 09/22/04
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Sounds like a good idea with one problem, the respond cards would have to be customized for groups of guests, eg., 1, 2, 3 guests etc. Which can be very costly.
Hope this helps.
Posted by Judy Stark; updated 09/23/04
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Or... You can make the line read
____ of _____ guest with the same concept and fill in the second line yourself prior to sending the cards.
Posted by Lori; updated 09/23/04
