Gift Registry...?...

We do not want to register for gifts. We are moving across the country and want to take as least as possible. Do you have any suggestions for ediquitte for our reception? How do you politely ask for money? Any suggestions for wording on the invitations? Thanks!
Posted by Jennifer; updated 08/23/04

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You don`t ask for money and you don`t write gift information or requests on your invitations. You let your parents and your wedding party know your circumstances and then you simply wait and see if anyone asks about gifts. If they do, then you or your wedding party (whomever was asked) can tell them you`re not registered because you`re moving across the country. They`ll either give you money or they`ll choose a gift for you anyway. You have no control over that, and it`s rude and unacceptable to try. All you can do is thank your guests graciously for whatever gifts you receive.
Posted by Linda; updated 08/23/04

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If you already know your new address, you can still register and let everyone know that it would be much easier on your move if they shipped gifts directly to your new address. And you can inform the Post Office to put a hold on all of your mail indefinately, you can release everything after you arrive and are settled enough. Most people would probably give you a cash gift rather than spend the time standing in line at the PO and pay the extra $ for shipping. But basically, all you can do is hope for the best and remember that your guests love you and want to do the right thing, whatever it might be.
Posted by Excited Bride; updated 08/24/04

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Thank you for your suggestions! This helps!
Posted by Jennifer; updated 08/25/04

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I`m not registering for the wedding. I will register for the brial shower but since we really don`t need anything and I`m also hoping for money to help offset the cost of the reception I`ve decided to just not register.
Posted by Janine; updated 08/25/04