Hhhhhh

It is your wedding do what you want. Second weddings are a big deal too. If you do not want the white gown and vail. Wear something else. Personally I think you have more options then the young first time brides. Go shopping and find something nice you like in a color and style that look good on you. Im sure you can find some very nice dresses. Basicly a wedding is a wedding. The planning is the same first second ect..Enjoy your day.
It is your day do it your way. It is still a big deal and a lot of poeple will want to come.
Good luck keeping the wedding list below 100