Really Hurt!!
Hi. We invited 347 people to our wedding and aug 16 is the due date for the response cards, i`m getting really stessed over it and we have 129 confirmed guest and still waiting and worried that our big ballroom we rented will look so empty, we have 25 people that have regreted and furthmore if we dont made 300 the hotel will charge us 750.00 rental on hall, i dont want the room to look empty if say 200 guestes come, do people usually wait untill the last minute?? to sent the response cards, another upset a 1st cousin of my fiancee cant make it (out of town reuion) and she has know the wedding date for one year now and has talked to me about it and i feel really hurt about it becuase i think becuase its the long weekend she would much rather go away of, i cancelled my work xmas party to go to her sons wedding and another cousins of my fiancee i went to her social, shower, and wedding and also cancelled plans i had, why do i feel so awful!!!
Hurt
Posted by deb; updated 08/05/04
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My due date for the RSVPs was a few days ago and only 30% mailed them in. Alot of people, especially family members who are close to you, assume that you know they are coming. There is nothing wrong with a quick call reminding people to mail it in. I`ve had brides call me for a reminder and I was glad they did, I had forgotten to mail the card, so when I did, the day after her call, she received it on time.
The popular belief in the wedding books is to count on 25% of invited guests to decline your invites. Unfortuantely for you, that will bring you under the 300 guests that you need to save $ on the fees. But what you should think about is....will the rental fee be more or less than the cost to provide those guests with food, beverages, and cake. If the rental fee will be more, start doing the 2nd tier invite list, neighbors, coworkers and so on. If the food cost will be more, thank your lucky stars that they won`t be coming.
Posted by Excited Bride; updated 08/06/04
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My RSVP was 1st August. Most family guests acknowledged they were/weren`t coming almost immediately they received the invite. There is only a small percentage that still have yet responded and I actually think it`s quite rude - it gives the impression they ain`t interested. Of course this isn`t always the case and I`ll probably end up chasing them! Though I`m starting to wonder whether to bother - I`d rather have genuine well-wishers at my wedding, not people who feel obliged to turn up. It`s certainly a time when you find out who your real friends are...
Posted by Tania; updated 08/10/04
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I understand about not wanting to chase people who don`t respond, I feel the same way. Unfortunately, many of those who don`t mail in the card do actaully attend and without chasing them you`d be left with not enough room or food to feed them. It is very rude and does make me feel they aren`t interested, but what can we do? WE picked these people to invite in the first place.
Posted by Excited Bride; updated 08/10/04
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Hi me again the cousin who all of a sudden has a reunion has regreted saying that this renuion has been planned for 5 years!! GIVE ME A BREAK how stupid does she think we are here to by that story, she is sending her 2 kids to the wedding, such an important family reunion she has knowthe wedding date for 1 year now, i really really hurt now.
Posted by deb; updated 08/11/04
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Debs
Goes to show where her priorities lie - don`t bother yourself with her, she`s clearly shown she`s not worth it...
Good luck with your wedding. X
Posted by Tania; updated 08/12/04
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It`s a wonderful world we live in. People don`t understand the importance of that RSVP.
Call each guest (or have someone do it for you) that you have not heard from. Let them know you haven`t recieved their response back and you wanted to make sure they recieved their invitation. I don`t trust the postal service these days either. (Can you imagine being mad at someone because they didn`t come to your wedding and they are mad at you because you didn`t invite them.) Also just a tip for all those that haven`t sent out invitations yet. If you are mailing them to their homes mail them so they arrive on a Fri or Sat. Your immediate responses are better at that time.
Posted by Dona Liston; updated 08/14/04
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I would hand the duty over to your maid of honor, after all she`s there to help you. Have her take your list and contact the guests that haven`t replied. I think handing this task over will take the stress off of you. Don`t stress over these things, not everything will come out the way you hope for, be happy for the things that do. I`m sure that the people that love you the most will be at your side on your big day! And you won`t miss all the "rude one`s" that didn`t respond, It`s your day to shine, don`t stress on it!
Posted by me; updated 08/16/04
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Hey girl! at the end of the day you will be married to your soulmate!!!!!! that is what it really is all about!
And when it comes down to it you and your mate will be so caught up in each other, you will wonder why you worried about those who chose not to share your special day. I say it is their loss! God bless and i hope all works out for you!!
Posted by freebyrd; updated 08/19/04
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First of all, you need to learn how to spell and be grammatically correct. If your invitations are anything like your message (hardly understandable), I can see why people took cover!
Posted by spark; updated 09/08/04
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Hey !
Don`t worry about the negativity! This is supposed to be a site where we help each other not bash on the way someone expresses themselves. We are not all perfect, and those of us who are would not have to post on this site...because they would have all the answers. And hopefully positive feeback not petty negative feedback. God Bless you Deb hope all works out for you, as I said before...at the end of the day you will still be with your soulmate and the little things that stressed you will not even matter!
Posted by freebyrd; updated 09/09/04
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Hey.. Relax & just remember this is your day.. And no matter what happens, no matter what can go wrong.. You are marrying the one you love.. You absolutely have to keep that in mind.. NO wedding day goes by without SOMETHING happening.. Its just all about how you react & handle it.. Its her loss not to make it to your wedding! ENJOY
PS.. HEY SPARK... What was that comment all about.. Was it really necessary.. Why bother typing messages in here if they are worthless rude comments to someone that didn`t even do anything.. Grow up!
Posted by Megan; updated 09/17/04
