Interracial Wedding

Hi seems like you are having some problems deciding. Anyway, always remember its good to hire a wedding planner for your wedding because they would know exactly what to do and how to get it done. Where are you from. Maybe one can recommend you a planner. Do something different and have a destination wedding and have a wedding of a totally different culture. I mean thats just another option.

Hi!!! Thanks for the suggestions. I really don`t want to hire a wedding planner because I like to be involved with all the plannings and plus I can`t afford to hire one. But if anyone has any suggestions or ideas, that would be great.

Thanks for your help Mika. My FH is Catholic and he`s from Trinada. I will be wearing the American wedding gown for the first half of the wedding and then change into my traditional chinese wedding gown. But I`m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions for the reception so that it`s not too ackward. My family is very conservative and quiet...his family is pretty loud, so how can we incorporate both cultures?

I`m really not to familar with your culture...but maybe at the reception you can merge both of them. Like for food- have food from both backgrounds. The same with music...ect. Have both cultures envolved...kinda like take turns with them. And have both families involved!! I`m sure this could be a great learning experiance for both of them to learn about their future in-laws.I`m not sure if this makes any sense- I just woke up, but if you`d like you can email me at ams015@msn.com and I`ll try to better explain. Or if you`d like to ask anything else. Congrats!!

So this is kind of unrelated, but it will give an idea of something you can do. For my cousin`s quincenera (don`t know if I spelled that right, anyway big huge 15th birthday party as big a deal as a wedding). Well, my cousin and her other younger family memebers are very american, but the family itself as a whole is very enriched in their traditional mexican culture. Since the party was for a teenager but guests were both adults and teens and kids whom have very different types of ideas of what music is "fun" and enjoyable, they ended up having music provided by a DJ for the teens and a band that played latino and traditional mexican music for the adults. They placed the band on one side of the room and the Dj on the other and then alternated between them (they had one play 5 or 6 songs then the other). This kept a good mix and everyone enjoyed themselves. They had the Dj not play too loud so that people could still carry on conversations while the "kids" music played and you even saw adults dancing to the kids music and kids dancing to the traditional music. Anyway, you could try something like that, have a little of something there for everyone. A dj willing to play music from all cultures (check to make sure they will allow you to give them music to be played, some will some won`t) or whatever you choose. You could try doing something totally different from either of the groups, maybe find a big band that will play jazz and swing that can give you a good mix of energized music and more toned down music to accomadate both tastes and it`s the kind of music most people can enjoy. Just an idea. Whatever you choose, i`m sure will turn out perfectly, everyone will know that you put thought and effort into trying to make everyone comfortable and for everyone to have a good time. Good luck and I wish you a wonderful marriage.

Hi Nikki, your post is over a year old so you are probably a married woman by now. What did you two decide? My fiance is Korean and I am African American and I am interested in how you meshed both cultures.