How To Deal With Sister-In-Law??

It`s quite understandable that your fiance want his sister to be part of the wedding, likewise it`s understandable you don`t want too much to do with his sister if you both don`t get on. Bridesmaids are meant to be your choice anyway - like the choosing of a Bestman is his. You should try and compromise though, and involve his sister in something if it will keep the peace. But if you`re adamant that you don`t have a role for her then ask your fiance to suggest an alternative. If he can`t than she`ll just have to sit out.

Good Luck!

I strongly believe that your sister-in-law and mother-in-law should be nowhere around you on your wedding day if they make you uncomfortable.I f your husband loves you,he will understand that you`d rather be with your family who love and support you on your day.IT IS NOT THEIR DAY,BUT YOURS.i recently was married and was kind of in the same position,i explained to my husband and he understood.i told his family thanks for offering help but that i had my family.every thing turned out great without having his family putting their unwanted 2 sense in.i hope you enjoy your day,and every thing is well.good luck happy bride.

I disagree. When you choose to marry, you marry everyone in that person`s life. There should be no my family, your family stuff. You are joining families, and 2 families become our family. Change you perspective a little and learn to accept them as part of your new, bigger family.

Living with someone`s faults and accepting them as part of your new family is one thing, but expecting them to be included in your day is another. Although it is ultimately your choice on how stands next to you on the alter, one thing that does make a difference is whether or not your FH is including any of your family at his side. If he is, you have to be fair.

Most likely his Mother or sister is putting pressure on him to include his sister in the ceremony and that too makes a difference in the decision. Talk to him and see what his views are on this matter. WHY does he want her to take part? And does she have to be part of the wedding party? Will he allow her to have important duties for the ceremony and reception instead of walking down the aisle? If he will agree to that, she will be no where near you for most of the day, she will doing her duties instead.

But In all, I am on your side on this one. It is your day and should not be forced to feel unhappy in any way at all. Whether it is new family, old family, or even just an aquaintance. You should only be surrounded by those who will make you feel great about the entire day. It`s stressful enough without added drama or attitudes.

Thank you! You couldnt have described the way I feel about it any better! They arent putting pressure on him about it...he hasnt mentioned it yet bc we havent even started planning the wedding. We dont even have a date yet. I`ve already tried to convince him that giving her another role will still be acknowledging her, but he says she HAS to be in the wedding. He is not including anyone from my side on his side of the wedding party, but I only have one sister, so he really cant. He has told me though that if I had a brother, he would of course include him as a groomsman. I just dont want to deal with that girl on our wedding day. I know I wont beable to be myself with her around. I`ll be too concerned about the way she thinks I look bc of how materialistic and superficial she is.

Stuck up your guns! It`s about you and your fiance, not his family and you! What matters is that you two are being united as one! I`m in the same situation, because my fiances brother is his best man in our wedding! He has a girlfriend that my fiance and I hate! She has hit my fiances brother and etc. We don`t like her and every time we have a family function, she always stares, glares or whatever. On the other hand, there is my fiances mother who babies her and my fiances brother, because they can`t function without having all the attention on them! I really could care less if either one of them are at my wedding, but the fact of the matter is that you have to please your fiance`s wishes! So here`s my advice to you...be yourself! It`s your wedding...so that means everything is about you and your fiance! No one can tell you what to do! If you can`t stand being around her and don`t want her in your wedding, if you don`t feel that she will help the cause, just make it worse...then just explain to your fiance your reasoning! If he can`t understand how you feel and help you out with your dilemma....maybe some things need to be said to the sister-in-law! Maybe she can "try" to be nice and see where things go from there! Just remember...you always have to deal with them when you get married! That`s his family!

Hey, sorry for your delema. I have a suggestion if your fiance wants her to be apart of the wedding but doesn`t want her to be in a little part then suggest that she stands on his side. My cousin had a guy stand on herside beause she really wanted her good friend to be in the wedding but did not feel that her fiance should have to give up a friend for hers. It was a unique idea and it really turned out great. Have her dress be the same as your bridesmaids and she walks down and back by herself like a jr. BM does. She stands on his side during the cermony. Let him set up the day for her and his mother to get their hair done (at a differnt place or time as yours). Let her and her mom know that she is apart of this day but as his part. Do not blame her for not allowing you to be yourself that is your choice. Go and have fun with as less stress as possible. I hope this helps. Good Luck