Liquor

We are having it done this way too. People tend only to `sip` it for the toast so much of it would be wasted - and champagne dont come cheap!!! There`s nothing rude about it.

Have a "toast" size glass of champagne served to those who want one ............ For the first toast.

Seeing it at other weddings doesn`t make it right. It`s definitely rude to splurge on something for some guests and not others all at the same party.

I don`t think she was saying that only some of the guests were going to get the champagne. She said that only the head table-which includes the bride/groom and all of the wedding party and attendants-would be getting the champagne. None of the guests would even know that they had something different, especially if all of the guest tables are provided with e red and a white wine. That gives the guest a chance to choose which they would prefer to drink and not waste a bunch of $$$ on a cheap champagne for everyone that most people wouldn`t even like.

I have never seen this done before, but it does sound like a good idea.

But the wedding party and attendants (or anyone at the head table) are also wedding guests. Anyone who received an invitation to attend is your guest. But if you want to distinguish between types of guests, it`s still the same answer. It`s still rude to serve something to certain people at the reception and exclude the rest.

Linda

Why is it rude? I`ve been to several wedding where they even eat differently at the head table - so many people are fussy when it comes to what they can and cannot eat. Guests were served fish and each table had a complimentary bottle of a red and white wine. The rest of the drinks were the responsibility of each guest from the bar. The head table were served beef and champagne. An ideal way to keep costs down and no-one even notices as they should be busy having fun!!

Rude = is too complain - just eat and drink whatever is served to you and be grateful you were served at all...

Mary, as I said before, just because you`ve seen it done at other weddings doesn`t make it right.

Offering certain guests one thing and the "better" guests another thing is absolutely rude.

But you are right too. I wouldn`t compain about it. I would eat what I was served and be oh so greatful. That`s what a decent guest does. But simply because guests do the right thing and pretend not to notice that they are the "B" guests, and appreciate what they are given, does not mean they`ve not been insulted by the behavior of rude hosts.

Linda

I think you`re going over the top... It`s NOT rude and certainly does NOT instigate rude hosts. But if you`re offended by something so trivial then you`re obviously one who enjoys the material aspects rather than the joyus occasion of what a wedding is all about!

There is no right or wrong way - do whatever suits your BUDGET...

I`m with Mary. Those who even bother to notice are either not having a good time or are focusing on the material parts of the celebration. As both a bride to be and a frequent wedding guest, I don`t see a darn thing wrong with this idea. Very few weddings even put bottles on the table at all, most require you to go to the bar and wait in line for the wine. To me it`s a nice touch to have it right there.
And I also don`t see it as A guests or B guests. Most people don`t view the wedding party as guests, they are viewed as participants in the ceremony and as helpers to the couple. Most people see the head table as people who have worked very hard to put this event together and pull it off without problems. It`s not like Aunt "Josie" will be served wine at her table, and Aunt "Martha" at the table next to her is getting Champagne.
I do understand Linda`s point about just because you see it doesn`t make it right. So I asked my future in laws about how they would feel in this siutation, both as those who are paying for the event and as a guest at someone elses wedding. They agreed with Mary`s reasoning, and mine as well. The head table is special and may receive many things that "guests" do not. THIS IS SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE to treat the head table as the royalty they are for the day.

Noticing is not necessarily my point. Maybe some will notice, maybe they won`t. You certainly wouldn`t offer certain extras to some guests and not others at a party in your home! Or a party other than a wedding! Why would you do it at a wedding? Because it saves you money? Because people won`t notice and those who do are rude anyway? Do you even realize how ridiculous that sounds?

Do what you like.

Oh, and the honored guests are honored by standing up at your wedding, sitting at the head table sometimes, and receiving a gift of appreciation from the bridal couple. There are specific ways that you honor your wedding party. You don`t honor your wedding party by serving them extra or better food or drink than any of the other guests in attendance.