I Need My Parents To Agree With Me!
Ok, this last summer of 2004 I went to a small town in Devon, England. I`m really young and I fell in love with a guy who is too old for me. It`s hard because he knows his friends don`t approve, and I know my friends don`t approve and if he gets caught touching me by anyone who cares, he`ll go to jail. To make things easier I`m 15 and hes 21. He`s not like some "perverted child molester" When we met I thought he was about 18 and thats what he thought too, it wasnt untill later that we found out each others real age. We were both really shocked and we decided that 6 years isnt a problem when next March I`ll be 16 and in England it will be ok. Now my problem is we are both incredibly in love with each other. I feel like I can`t go on unless I see him. He is coming to me in October and I want to go to him in December and during the summer. I can get the money for the currency and for the plane ticket no problem. Its getting my parents to let me go. What should I do and how should I approach them? HELP!!
Posted by Aries; updated 07/23/04
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I`m sorry Aries, but I think you should forget him and move on. Long distance relationships are difficult at the best of times and I`m not so sure your guy will be saving himself for you. I`m from the UK myself, and I know what lads his age are like. English guys like to party, get drunk and score (it`s their life). There are very few who can be trusted - most guys his age are only out for a good time minus the responisbilities and consider themselves too young to settle down. I may be wrong - yours may be an exception. But understand how your parents think, put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself how you would react if your daughter was teling you this now...
Posted by ??; updated 07/23/04
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Honey, I know you think you`re really in love and can`t live without this guy, but trust me, NO ONE knows what they really want, or even who they really are, at 15. This guy might seem really devoted, but it`s probably easy to seem that way when you don`t see the person more than a few times a year, and don`t have to make any big commitments. Another thing to consider is, the age difference and the distance between you two probably makes the relationship feel really intense and dramatic, but those aren`t necessarily good things.
My advice is, find a nice guy (or a few nice guys) your own age and in your own zip code, have fun dating, and don`t tie yourself down to some guy in another country whom you probably don`t even know that well. I would be appalled if your parents DID let you go see this guy. If they`re decent parents at all, they`ll put their feet down, and please don`t hate them when they do, because they only want to do what`s best for you. Take care.
Posted by Heidi A.; updated 07/24/04
