HELP NOW MY FIANCE WONT MARRY ME
HELP my fiance wont marry me now were suposed to get married in Sept. I am 26 he is 31. We have been together for 5 years and never discussed previous sexual past. It finally came out last weekend in a drunken stooper, I told him the truth I have been with about 60 men and now he thinks im trash. I was his third..I never asked and neither did he. I used to charge men to be with me that is why the number is so high, but so what, it paid for his meals.. SHould I dump him or what? Im a good catch, and its not like i have any STD`s that i know of...help
Posted by LIZ; updated 07/21/04
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I`m sorry to say but if you`re post is for real. I understand your fiance as to why he doesn`t want to marry you! You`ve been with 60 men and according to your post, you were with men while with your fiance! How disgusting is that???? You must not be that committed to him if you sold yourself for meals! That`s just gross! And remember, some STD`s take a while to show up, especially AIDS. Let him go find someone that will not sell herself! Your nasty!
Posted by adriana; updated 07/22/04
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You asked if you should dump him ... Does that mean that he is still sticking by? If it does, I would recommend counseling with someone that is a neutral third party. And darlin, stay out of that biz, it is no place for a lady ... I know that circumstances may drive to desperation, but please for your sake and for any sake of your happiness stay out of that. You talked like it was completely in the past and Im happy to hear that, you must be proud of yourself for moving on to better things in life. I would not walk away, but play it careful and you just have to realize that the trust in your relationship needs to be rebuilt. No matter what secret someone keeps from their partner, it will always do the same damage. Love yourself, heal your heart because God knows you were hurt in the past and work on this with this guy if you and he can.
Good Luck
Posted by Lee; updated 07/22/04
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Everyone has a past good or bad.
I think he`s just upset and he`s just shocked about it.
If you slept with men while you two were together then I think he has the right to be mad and marriage would not be a good thing.
If he truly loves you then he can get past it but if not it was not ment to be and it better that it happend when your dating instead of when your married.
You really should go to the doctors and get checked out as a matter of fact everyone should you don`t have to sleep with a lot of people to get STD`s all you need is one but your chances are higher when you`ve had several sexual partners.
Good luck I wish you all the best.
Posted by neeny; updated 07/22/04
