Favor Question

I am so lost when it comes to the favor part of the whole wedding deal. We are having our ceremony and reception in the same private garden (immediately following).
What is the rule on favors? If we give them pretty bubbles to blow as we walk back down the aisle, does this count as their favor or am I suppossed to get them something else as a reception favor as well?
I`m not trying to be cheap or anything, I just don`t know the rules and I don`t want to offend.
Posted by Excited Bride; updated 07/09/04

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No, the bubbles wouldn`t count as a favor. You would have to get something else as the reception favor.(usually given at the end of the reception)

GOOD LUCK WITH THE WEDDING!!!!!!!!!
Posted by Christina; updated 07/09/04

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On the website you suggested I saw the silver bell place card holders. I`ve also seen them on other sites. Can I get away with triple duty on this item, meaning I would use it as a placecard holder, bell for kisses (instead of clinking and breaking glass) and as a favor if I put a ribbon and a thank you tag on it?
Posted by Excited Bride; updated 07/09/04

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Well it depends.
You can use it as a place card holder with everyones names and where the`re sitting but ususally people take them with them. You can use it also as a bell for kisses.
What you can do is put a card saying the name of the person and where there sitting and put a little tag on it that says something cute letting them know that they are to ring the bells if they want you two to kiss but i wouldn`t as a favor. Sorry.
Hope i was able to help.
Posted by Christina; updated 07/09/04

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For the favors, on the website, they have the Miniature Silver Plated Champagne Bucket, you could fill them with jellybeans (or whatever you want) wrap them in organza and put a little tag on it that says thanks for comming or something like that.
Posted by Christina; updated 07/09/04

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I know that people usually take the placecard holder home with them. That`s exactly my point. If they`re going to take it home with them anyway after it had served it`s purpose as a placecard holder and a bell to ring, and they receive decorated bubbles as well, that doesn`t count as a favor? I`m still suppossed to buy a 3rd gift/favor for the guests?
Thanks also for your reponses Christina, I have no idea how this stuff is supposed to be done. This is my first (and last) wedding.
Posted by Excited Bride; updated 07/09/04

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I know that people do things different, but at the weddings I go to, they give the guests the bubbles or roses or whatever that want them to throw at the ceremony. Then at the reception, they do the place card holders, then they give the favors as they leave. So yeah thats basically 3 gifts.
But if you want to do the bubbles as a favor and put a little tag that says thanyou for comming or something like that like you had said before is a good idea too.
I`m glad I can help.
Good Luck.
Posted by Christina; updated 07/09/04

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Excited Bride, while some people will disagree with me, I personally don`t feel wedding favors are necessary. Quite honestly, most people don`t notice if they not provided.

I didn`t do favors for my wedding and am glad I made that decision. I feel it`s an added expense that is often forgotten at the reception by guests.

Good luck!
Posted by Kay; updated 07/09/04

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I completely agree with Kay. I got married 4 weeks ago and we did not have favours either. I was just looking for something else to spend money on. They are very expensive and most people throw them away...come on you`ve all done it!
What we did instead was set up an area at the reception that people could get their picture taken. We asked my cousin to take the photos as people where coming in to the reception hall while waiting for us to arrive. We had the film printed and we sent them their photo in with the Thank You card. We have had so many positive responses to this. People mostly say that they forgot to get their own photo taken when they were all dressed up nice and now they have a nice picture of themselves.
It worked out great...and best of all it was REALLY inexpensive.
Posted by Coral; updated 07/10/04

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Ladies,
I did personalized candy bars for our favors. I now own a business that does them. Here is how I used them for mine. I had them customized with our names date etc. On the back we had the table and seat number places printed, then we just took a marker and filled it out. We got two uses out of the same favor. On the back on the wrapper we had a special thank you for enjoying our special day message. The web site is saywhatchocolates.com. If you have any questions email me at saywhatchocolates@msn.com. I will discount any orders 15% and we can put anything on them
Posted by Melissa; updated 07/13/04

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Favors are definitely NOT necessary.
If you do choose to give them, then something edible is usually best. Most people don`t really care about little trinkets and they either get left on the tables or thrown away once they get home. If you want to do favors then get some sweets and wrap them prettily to match your reception decor and put them on the tables at each individual place setting. It`ll do double duty by serving as an extra decoration at each plate and as a little sweet treat for each guest.
Posted by Linda; updated 07/13/04

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Think about what YOU would want as a favor if you were a guest at a wedding, or which favors you`ve liked/disliked at past weddings you`ve been to. Personally, I wouldn`t really have any use for a single placecard holder after the wedding, and I can`t imagine that most people would. Unless it`s a favor that most of the guests would really enjoy, like something edible, I would save yourself some money and just skip them. You shouldn`t feel "obligated" to give a favor, it should be something you really enjoy and want to give your guests as a token of your appreciation. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Posted by Heidi; updated 07/14/04

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I was wondering about this too and have almost certainly made my mind up not to bother. Besides, there will be slices of the weding cake in little boxes for them to take home....
Posted by Tania; updated 07/14/04

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We had large bins of flowers from the farmer`s market decorating the reception site. Inside the bin, they were bundled into individual bouquets. As people left, they were invited to take a bouquet of flowers with them. That way they are given something pretty from the wedding to take home to enjoy, but can toss when they get old without feeling guilty. And, they doubled as decorations for the reception. It wasn`t too terribly expensive and very pretty!
Posted by Amy; updated 07/15/04

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Favors. Favors are not really necessary at a wedding. Few, if any, will use the whole bottle of bubble. I assume they have a small gold wedding ring tied with a ribbon on them? They can keep that as a favor. A good favor is a scent pack. Buy netting and cut it into squares. Make small potpourri balls or fill with small soap balls and tie with white ribbon. You can also do that with rice however most places prohibit rice throwing.
Posted by Rev Dan Latour; updated 07/15/04