Shower Ettiquette

It`s def acceptable to put the cards to the stores your registerd at in the shower invites. Most people do. I wouldn`t rely on word of mouth. Hope I helped. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!

I think as long as it is done tastefully like with the cards from the store and only one card per person ( like if they are invited to more than one shower)
Good luck on your day and may your life be filled with much love and happiness

Since your aunt is hosting the shower for you, she will be sending out the invitations. Thus, you won`t know for certain if registry information is included or not. Personally, I wouldn`t include registry information in a shower invite, but that is just me. If your Aunt opts to do so or not will not be an etiquette reflection on you since you aren`t the person sending the invites.

Relax and enjoy the shower! It`s one of the least stressful things when planning a wedding because someone else is taking care of the details - you just have to show up, have fun, and smile.

Best wishes!

Actually it is entirely correct (and HELPFUL) to include registry info with a shower invite, since the purpose of a shower is GIFT GIVING :0)
I would simply include the information on the invite itself at the bottom right hand corner...

Bride to be is registered at
Pottery Barn
Bloomingdales
Linens and Things
Those little cards are a nuisance in my opinion and are too easy to misplace.

The friend who threw my shower asked me what types of things I needed aka, kitchen, bath etc. So she included on the invite that it was a Kitchen Shower. I received such cool gifts from people that I would have never thought of registering for. Each gift was really personal, but useful. (I was given 8 cookbooks...maybe someone`s trying to tell me something, but they are all so great, I can hardly wait to get cooking!).

Thanks everyone for your help.

HIS Aunt is throwing the shower, with help from his Mom, and my MOH desperately trying to add input. The Aunt is the social one of the family, she does everyones parties from B-days to showers. She loves it, and that is wonderful. No complaints really. Although I was trying to avoid the whole shower thing. Almost all of my family and closest old friends live 2500 miles away, and it is unlikely any will attend the shower. I am not very close with most of his family (and it is a large one) and I am on the shy side, very uncormfortable being the center of attention in a room full of virtual strangers.

So it`s his Aunt throwing the shower at her home. The thing is, she isn`t doing the invites. My MOH and I are doing them because the Aunt is out of town until a week before the party. I don`t know if I would be able to count on word of mouth without her being around to help spread the word.
I have seen the cards included in invites before, just didn`t know if it was proper or not.

Also, my FH and I have lived together for over 3 years now, we don`t need much, but we registered anyway to make it easier on people. There is alot of things we do not need and don`t want to have to return after the showr. I want to be able to make toast and think of Aunt Joan`s dress she wore to the wedding or when she took me to the zoo when I was 5. Know what I mean? I want to be able to keep and use the gifts I receive, not return them for other things I picked out myself.

Yes, you can insert the registry cards in shower invites. Though, since you and your MOH are doing the invites do not put your name in them. Not as hostess, co-hostress or even as an RSVP number. You are able to place the cards in, because you or your immediate family are not hosting the shower. (this would seem self serving). But the whole concept of the shower is to shower the B/G with gifts. You can assume that gifts will be given. I hope you intend to invite your family from out of state. When my MOH had mine, my Mom told her to send one to my favorite Aunt(who lived 1800 miles away from the shower site) not because she thought she would be able to come but because she wanted her to see the handmade invites my MOH worked so hard on. Well, she surprised me and flew in the Friday night before and spent the whole weekend with us. It was the best surprise and gift!
Good Luck!

Thanks again, everyone. We are inviting all of the out of town guests as well. I thought it would be the proper thing to do. Although I do already know in advance that none of them will be able to attend. But a surprise visit would be wonderful.

For the invites we planned on putting his Aunt`s name as hostess as it is at her house. But for the RSVP`s, we have to put my MOH`s #. As I said, the Aunt will be out of town until days before the party so she will be unable to handle those calls. The only alternative is my FH Mom to handle the RSVp`s, but that is even more immediate and socailly unacceptable, Right? I am helping her with the invites only because I have the printer that can accept thicker invite paper, her printer can`t handle it. I am not involved in the planning part of the party at all. Nor is my MOH really. We just need to do the invites for his Aunt.

Isn`t it acceptable these days for a MOH or a bridesmaid to throw a shower and so on? So it would be okay for her to handle the RSVP`s as well, even though she is not the hostess?

Yes, ExcitedBride any of your attendants or MOH could handle the RSVP`s. As long as it is not immediate family. Though I have seen the Groom`s Mom be listed for RSVP`s recently. Good Luck!