Is Anyone Else Stressing!

Yes I totally understand. My advice is take a break just for the weekend. No wedding talk allowed. Relax you WILL get it all done. What are you having trouble with maybe I could help. Mine is in October I lucked out by getting a package deal so they do it all. But I am here for you chick. :)

My wedding is in October and I am stressing so bad my hair is falling out!!!! I just want it to be perfect and it seems like as soon as I think one thing is done, here comes a reason why it`s not. Sometimes I just want to SCREAM!!! But it does help to vent.

I am stressing out but for the wrong reasons. The planning for the wedding is going fine (the wedding is in September) but everything else seems to be crashing down...where do I start?
1. One of the groomsmen is refusing to wear shoes to the church. He wants to wear his cowboy boots. That`s fine but I want shoes. I`m not putting this much time into something to be staring at his cowboy boots during the ceremony.
2. My fiance`s only niece is saying that she doesn`t want to miss her first few days of high school to come to the wedding. We are getting married in my hometown (about a day`s trip from where we live now) and I wanted that because every family event we go to is with his family because they live close by. Now, something is for me and people are complaining.
3. Again, with the wedding out of town, my fiance`s parents are complaining about the cost of the trip to see us get married. It isn`t going to be that expensive for the trip and we aren`t asking for any financial help for the wedding from them, but they are still keep saying how tight money will be and how they don`t know how to do it.
4. My fiance married young before and obviously it failed. However, we are so excited and in love. My fiance said to his parents "We`re only getting married once, you only have to make the one trip". His dad had the nerve to say to him: "Well, you`re on your second time". How insensitive!!
5. My bridesmaid`s have refused to let me pay for their dresses. The groomsmen have their hands stuck out for us to pay for the tuxes. To keep the peace, we agreed but don`t the people standing usually at least pay a partial amount?
Anyhow, I love my fiance so much and can`t wait for the day but how do I deal with his parents and family? Anyone have suggestions or comments? Am I the only one like this? How do I not let this ruin my day but not be ignorant to his family?

I still have a little more than a year, so I`m not stressed, but I`m definitely no stranger to family issues. We haven`t even set an exact date yet, and already our families are trying to tell us what we should and shouldn`t do. I know how easy it is to let little things balloon into big issues, but I think the best thing you can do is learn to pick your battles. Is it really a big deal if the groomsman wears cowboy boots? Chances are, no one will even notice. Do you notice the attendants` footwear when you go to weddings? Also, I`m sure you won`t be staring at his boots during the ceremony, you`ll probably be staring at the man who will be your husband in a matter of minutes!

As for family members being unsupportive, that sucks, but you can`t change them. Just remember that you`re marrying someone you love, and ultimately, underneath all the rings and table linens and dresses and planning and stress, that`s what a wedding is really all about. It hurts to have family or friends who aren`t totally supportive, but just remember that you are joining lives with someone who DOES support you (I hope so, anyway!) and will always be there for you.

Best of luck to all of you!

Thanks Heidi,

I know that you are right but it is hard to get past the little things. To be honest, I am just thrilled to be in love and know that this person is the one whom I will spend the rest of my life with. I suppose I am a little selfish in thinking that everyone should think how I do with this wedding. Regardless of anything that happens, it will be the best day of my life!

Yes, me too. Wedding`s in September and it`s being held in Brazil (we live in UK). I`m stressing because he`s going home this Monday and I won`t be around to oversee things until two weeks prior to the wedding. So far I`ve stressed over :

1. The necessary documents I need to collate and translate (some are taking weeks to sort out)
2. Finding a suitable translator for the wedding ceremony otherwise marriage will not be legally recognised
3. Sorting/translating the Order of Service (I`m trying to get it finished so he can take it with him!!!)

..... Actually there`s too many to mention. At one point I had an arguement with my partner over something and screamed that this is the `last time I ever do anything like this again!!!` - we laughed......