Cake Feeding/Smashing

Hi our wedding was in may and we didn`t do the cake smashing. Just fed each other, not smashing in the face.

Melissa

We DO NOT plan on smashing cake into each other`s face. We will feed each other cake but we plan to do it nicely, with no smashing. I never did see the reasoning bahind that anyway. I like to have a light harted moment and I like to have fun too, but I just do not see the fun in smashing.
Just my opinion mind you!
Sandie

No cake smashing at our wedding... I think it`s kind of dumb...

Cake smashing is not a tradition just disrespect not to mention bad luck. This is the first trust issue as husband and wife, to smash the cake in one anothers face is showing that you have no trust or you can`t really trust the other person. Just a helpful tid-bit!

Jen,
I have to agree with you. If my FH respects me then why would he smash cake in my face? And vise versa.
Sandie

Why do people smash the cake in each others faces anyway?? Its bad. What bride wants wedding cake all over her face on her special day.

Hello all~ as tradition would have it, the cake sharing is meant to be a beautiful part of the wedding celebration. So why spoil that with icing smearing?

Enjoy your day!

I find this to be disgraceful and not funny at all, even when both people seem to have fun with it, it is disgusting. It just does not show any class at all. A food fight should be in the comfort of home, not where lots of money hasn`t been spent on an occasion where nearest and dearest are present. It diminshes a sacred moment of feeding each other for the first time. Two people who do this deserve each other. At the cake cutting, the couple is relieved and relaxed, and that is understandable. Even small children get upset when something is smashed in their face. It is DEGRADING. A friend of mine was at a reception when the husband did this suddenly, and kind of hard, too and the bride looked surprised and so hurt and wanted to cry. It solidified how I personally feel about this - - appalled.

I know at a friend of mines wedding what they did was they didn`t smash the cake into each other`s faces. They took and just placed a small dot on each other`s noses. I thought was kind of cute.. It wasn`t to were you couldn`t see the nose just enough for a picture.

No cake in my face! I told him I am not paying 100 for my hair and makeup for him to ruin it. He totaly understand he doesnt want me to be mad so we are going to do it real sweet like.

We just had our wedding 2 days ago and both we agreed that there was going to be no cake face smashing. After we fed eachother I put a tiny bit of icing on the tip of his nose for a picture.

I think it is very tacky and disrespectful to your spouse. Why spend all that money on your hair and makeup if you are just going to ruin it? My FH and I have discussed this and both agreed to forgo that "tradition" because we both see how tacky it really is.

I made it clear to my hubby long before the wedding no cake smashing and also no head up my dress for the garter!

I don`t plan on having cake smashed in my face, however, I don`t think that it is tacky or disrespectful. I think if you agree then that is okay. But it is a personal choice.

I agree, it`s Degrading. Men who do this at the urging of others ought to have their head dunked in a toilet in front of everyone.
Obviously, we will NOT be smearing cake on each other`s faces.

As everyone has their opinions... I have mine.. We got married a couple of months ago and I did smash.. It wasn`t like he smeared it all over my hair and face but we had some on our cheeks. He ran after me and gave me a huge kiss and thats how icing got on me. I don`t feel I degraded him or myself. We had a GREAT time and enjoyed ourselves with our guests. I think it something to be disussed and both be in agreement to save those hurt feelings and upset people. To each their own. I even went to a wedding last year and he didn`t smear it in her face but, on her chest and licked it off....

It really depends on whether you want a dignified wedding or an undignified wedding. Everybody has their own preference. However, make absolutely sure that your groom and you agree ahead of time what you`re going to do and STICK WITH THAT PLAN. I had a friend agree not to smash cake in his wife`s face ahead of time, then he did it anyway. I`m still not entirely certain their marriage is going to last for various reasons, but that`s a very bad start.

My wife had the very helpful idea of us feeding each other using forks. This might help if you`re concerned that you or your groom might get an overwhelming smashing urge (after all, smashing with a fork amounts to stabbing with a fork and could land one in jail).

All this said, do keep in mind that originally, the wedding cake was crumbled over the bride`s head in hopes of bringing fertility to the couple - a little factoid I learned from Good Eats on the Food Network - so cake smashing might not be quite as horrible as it seems. I still recommend a more dignified route, but that`s just me.

Jim

Now I dont think for a minute nor would any of our freinds and family think that our wedding was undignified! The only part undignified was the instant of the cake smearing (for fun). Other than that the "wedding" was very dignified! ;) The main thing is to enjoy your day with your new spouse and all your friends and family. Whichever way you choose to have your wedding. I think we are entering an era where weddings aren`t as tradional as they once were. People are being more creative and having fun planning their weddings. I think sometimes it`s hard for people to let go of the stead fast rules of tradition. I say be creative and have FUN!

Hi Jim, I just wanted to tell you that I adore Alton Brown on Good Eats! Good Eats and Unwrapped are two of may fav shows:)

Hey, Beth. Have you tried any of the recipes? Nancy and I love the country ham, but we try not to make it too often because when we do, we pretty much eat nothing but ham for the next day and a half. Nancy and her coworkers also thoroughly enjoyed the cheesecake, and his method of cooking bacon is the most convenient I`ve run into (unless you want to save the bacon grease for some reason).

And to Recent Bride, I`m sorry, I didn`t mean to offend (never do mean to, and yet I almost always manage to do so). Feel free to replace "dignified" and "undignified" with "stuffy" and "fun." ;-)

Jim,
Actually, my fiance and I have d/l some of his recipes from the internet and plan on using them soon! I enjoy his method of teaching on his cooking show. My mother has already let us open her wedding gift to us (she just couldn`t wait!) and it was an extremely nice set of pots and pans. The first time we use them will be with one of his recipes:)

Its because all females live the first part of their lives with 2 goals, have a kid and get married. You build this day up as the ultimate moment in your life. I say it is bad luck if you don`t smush cake in each other`s faces. It is much more than silly fun, it shows you can get over your egos and your "day" and your hair etc, etc, and have fun and laugh. If your viewpoint wasn`t so distorted by this "day" and you thought about it, there aren`t going to be many opportunities to even get your families together like this, and looking back in 5 years you will really enjoy laughing about doing that to each other with everyone there. Going through that together is a fantastic start, and it shows a lot more trust to let your partner smush cake in your face nicely - and trust them NOT to smear and go wild and ruin things. It shows a lack of trust or prudence between couples who can`t trust the other to have some lighthearted fun like this with each other.