Bridal Shower Invitation List
I am the maid of honor for my friend. She and her fiance have chosen a small wedding (21 guests with immediate family only besides the wedding party of 1 best man, 1 maid of honor and our spouses). Is it appropriate to have a shower, knowing that none of the guests are invited to the wedding?
Posted by Allison; updated 06/20/04
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NO NO NO NO NO!
Posted by cheryl; updated 06/23/04
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ARE YOU SAYING THAT NO IT ISNT INAPROPRIATE OR ARE YOU SAYING THAT IT IS INAPROPRIATE
Posted by Christina; updated 07/28/04
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Just an FYI...After consulting many sources on ettiquiete related to this subject, I decided to go ahead and host the shower. I worded the invitations so that everyone was aware that "the bride and groom have chosen to have a small (family only) wedding", and that they would not be included at the wedding,but stated that I wanted to honor the bride with a shower to let her know how special she is. All RSVP`s have been received, and the response has been very positive, all invited guests (18) are attending, except for one that lives out of town. Most responses have stated that they are happy to be able to be involved in the bride`s shower as she is a good friend. I did not recieve one complaint, comment, or negativity. So I would say that although this is a case by case basis, it worked out well for me and my friend. Thank you all for your opinions, they all were considered.
Posted by Allison; updated 07/28/04
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Allison so how exactly did you word the invitations?
I am a bride that is getting married in April and im have a small family wedding, but i still want all my friends and parents friends to know that i am getting married and the reason they are unable to attend. I still want to celebrate my wedding with them and i think that having a shower is a good way to do so.
Posted by Christina; updated 07/29/04
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What I actually did, was send out an email to all guests who would be invited (there were 2-3 without email contacts, so I made a personal phone call). Here is what the email said:
"As you have probably heard...Amy and Tom, are getting married! They have chosen to have a small (family only) wedding on September 18,2004. In order to give all of Amy`s friends an opportunity to celebrate this special time in her life, I am hosting a bridal shower on August 18, 2004 in the Tampa area. Amy would like for you to be included in this special celebration, if you would like to participate please email or contact me to provide with your mailing address so I can send out an invitation."
OF course, I provided my contact info. I figured this way it was clear that friends would not be invited to the actual wedding, and gave people a chance to not send me their contact info if they did not want to participate.
Posted by Allison; updated 08/02/04
