I Need A Nice Way To Ask For Money Gifts.

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ONCE AND FOR ALL YOU CANNOT ASK FOR MONEY.....This was cut and pasted from The Knot.com

Q. How do you ask for gifts of money only?

A. Well, you can`t ask for any specific gifts from your guests, monetary or otherwise. What you can do is let them know *if they ask* that you would prefer cash gifts. Let your parents, siblings, wedding party, and close friends know too, and have them tell guests the same thing if they`re asked. But *don`t* announce it in a formal way to your guests (whatever you do, don`t put a card in the invitation!). If guests are curious, they`ll ask someone close to you what you would most like to receive. Some guests are going to want to buy you material gifts, so it`s a good idea to register somewhere, at least for some stuff. And of course, be sure to accept and acknowledge (that means thank-you notes) *every* gift gracefully. As for money gifts: Let the giver know how you intend to spend their gift in your thank-you card.

The reason you can not find a polite way to ask for money is because there isn`t one. Asking for money, or gifts of any sort, is inappropriate. Also, it is not your guests responsibility to fund your honeymoon - that`s up to you and your husband.

Why does this topic continue to come up?

My finance and I both own our homes and do not need house items. Is there any approriate way to put this on the wedding invitation?

Jackie Brady,
NO.

I think it would be very hurtful to your friends and family if they thought you expected money out of them.

I can`t believe people keep asking for "polite" or "creative" ways to do this. There is none. You don`t ask people for money. If you want a honeymoon, either save for it to go to a nice place, or delay until you and your spouse can afford it. I can`t believe people still ask this? What planet do you live on? Y-O-U D-O-N-T A-S-K F-O-R M-O-N-E-Y. Whether you were not taught better or just don`t know any better, either way it is sad you don`t know. There is also not a "polite" way to tell people you don`t need household gifts. That is a very slick way of asking for money. People may give it, not knowing what else to do. The only way to tell people is if they are family. If you put requests for money in writing, either 1) you will surely cringe years from now; or 2) your children will think it`s okay because you did.

I can`t believe people keep asking for "polite" or "creative" ways to do this. There is none. You don`t ask people for money. If you want a honeymoon, either save for it to go to a nice place, or delay until you and your spouse can afford it. I can`t believe people still ask this? What planet do you live on? Y-O-U D-O-N-T A-S-K F-O-R M-O-N-E-Y. Whether you were not taught better or just don`t know any better, either way it is sad you don`t know. There is also not a "polite" way to tell people you don`t need household gifts. That is a very slick way of asking for money. People may give it, not knowing what else to do. The only way to tell people is if they are family. If you put requests for money in writing, either 1) you will surely cringe years from now; or 2) your children will think it`s okay because you did.

Plan to pay for everything you need for the wedding, reception and honeymoon then if you get cash it is in addition to what you already have. Don’t calculate money you are hoping for. People want to come out and share in your happiness but they don’t want to feel as though they have to pay for it. Let those that want to buy gifts buy them. Many people enjoy giving but if you make them feel as though what they can’t give what they want because something else is required it can take the joy out of the gift giving for them. Everyone knows that a wedding is a big expense so if they want to help out and give cash as a gift they will without having to be instructed to.

I also have just purchased a house and am going to school full time and working full time. My fiance and I have a website that shows our house and pictures of the inside (so guests can see that we dont need or want a toaster, coffee maker or other "stuff" which has no place or room in our house). There are things we would like to fix up and this way they can see this(one of my windows has painted on it I LOVE RACH--I dont know a rach and I certainly dont love her nor want to look out through this to my back yard). Anyways--we have registered for some stuff that we need/want but there isnt much and quiet frankly want we need is expenisive so we have asked for gift certificates and stated that we do not expect people to buy us these larger items but gift certificates to the local DYI store and our registry store is greatly appreciated and we have said that cash is always welcome as well to help off set the cost of our honeymoon which we dont know if we can afford really right now. This way people have options of getting us some of the small gifts that are on our registry and they can opt not to give us cash or a certificate but if they do they can also see that we need that more. A gift is not expected at a wedding (or shouldnt be) and the people invited to my wedding know that we dont make much and dont spend out money extravagently. Our wedding is also just people that I would be truely sad if I didnt get to talk to them that day so these are close people who just want whats best for me. Another idea which may help indirectly is to ask for gift certificates to the grocery store. I love this cause its not cash coming out of my pocket but I get what we need for the week.

Like Kay and Vanessa rightly said, there is NO polite way to ask for money.

I cannot believe the number of times this issue has come up on this board! If you get gifts sell them on Ebay but asking for money is quite frankly, pathetic. I sympathise with you that you want a nice honeymoon, but the point blank truth is this - WHAT U CANT AFFORD, DONT DO!

The best you can do is to let family and close friends know, and discreetly spread the word on your behalf, but NEVER announce it yourself. You dont want to compromise your self respect for money. Its so not worth it!

Hi Annie,

Ask your wedding vendors if they offer a gift registry. We have had quite a few couples get their wedding photos and video paid for by different guests. We create personalized registry and gift cards for your guests to complete and you can include them in your invitation envelope. If your gifts amount to more money than the price of your photography and videography, we send you the difference within 3 days of receiving that amount.

Ask around, if your vendors aren`t doing it already, they might if you ask.

Oh my gosh!!! That last message really freaked me out. I would never ask my wedding guests to help pay for the vendors I hired! Oh Oh Oh my gosh no!!!!!

The tradition of the wishing well
Used on the wedding day,
Is here both for your money gifts
And for what you would like to say.

So please drop in a token of love
For this special Groom & Bride,
As they start their life united by God
To live forever side by side.

There is no tradition of a wishing well. That`s something some greedy bride made up and gave it a cutesy pie name and others followed. That poem sucks. I`m embarrassed just reading it on a message board.