Two Needy People

Crystal - Vonella`s post is nasty. Why are you buying into that? I don`t feel sorry for her. She hasn`t even come back on here to respond to anything. She is either too embarassed, or she just posted that as a joke.

If you want your wedding sponsored you`ll have to find sponcers, small businesses near your home that are new or looking for more business. Most of the people you will reach this way are brides like myself that are working hard and sacrificing to have the wedding we want. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having your wedding sponsored (the funny thing is people with money do it all the time) but on this board you’ll only reach people and not businesses and asking strangers for a hand out is out of line.

Lisa,

I agree with you, I know sacrifice must be made when children are born, and weddings are luxuries, not necessities. Yes, it is tacky to ask for money. But the person did not say she wanted a "huge wedding" as you put, she specifically said something small and cozy. I don`t condone giving money to strangers, but do feel if people have something to donate, meaning items from their own wedding, I see no harm in that. Of course, we cannot help everyone and nowadays, people should pay for their own weddings. I think the lady asking would appreciate used items in good condition, and it is good that they are finally marrying instead of leaving each other, finding others and having even more children with other people. If nothing else, I am just glad I do not have to walk in her shoes. I hope she can ask people sheknows as opposed to strangers if her friends can donate some things for them to have something small and cozy, not extravagant or costly.

On a tight budget..why not get married in your home, and have family and friends "help" with the arrangements. The weather is getting warmer and a backyard wedding can be cozy.You can print invitaions online, ask a friend or family member to get out their camcorder to provide the video, there are tons of things you can do to save money. A small gathering of family and friends to help celebrate your love for one another does not have to cost a small fortune and can be done without asking to be sponsored. If you want some advice on money saving tips, email me. I am a wedding coordinator. Thanks and good luck!
Michele

How about saving up for some birth control? Six children in five years? Holy Moley. Go get married at your town hall. Don`t wait for a wedding- taken down to brass tacks: marriage is a legal contract, nothing more- get married now and worry about a wedding down the line when you can afford it. Simply getting married at your town hall should cost you no more than $50. Stop having children, you cannot afford any more.

If you want to share the day with family and friends, have a pot luck party at your home or at the home of a family member or a friend. A formal wedding is a luxury that you cannot afford, but you will be every bit as married by going to your town hall or a Justice of the Peace, and a celebration put together by the people close to you will be every bit as memorable. (Although at this point, the whole thing is a bit anti-climactic, isn`t it?)

Hi Chante-
The point isn`t that they shouldn`t get married, the point is that they shouldn`t ask anyone else to pay for or contribute to their wedding.

The should get married and have whatever wedding they can afford. If that is just the J.P.- so be it. Having a ridiculous number of children is a choice, and it is a choice that will have an impact on what they can and cannot have in their lives.

They can get married any day they choose- it costs nearly nothing, it is the wedding, the optional luxury that they may not be able to have unless they can come up with a creative way to do it themselves. Asking someone else to pay for your wedding is a inappropriate as asking someone else to pay for your children. Choices people, choices.

Maybe you shouldn`t get married it`s just a paper that states your married what is a paper. In my eyes you two are all ready married. Once people get married it messes up their relationship. I don`t know why? maybe it`s to hard on the man. To feel trapped or the wife to be a mother, cook and cleaner. You start to see the littest things that you don`t like about a certain person once you married. In you two case you just minds well put the ring on hole and just keep loving eachother cause I went threw the same problem and that paper ruins your life.

What kind of a person comes on a wedding website and disses marriage? C`mon, get a life!